lovelifesmile Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 6 months now my dad isnt very fond of his daughter having a boyfriend so he like to give me and him restrictions on things wecan and cannot do. For example my boyfriend likes to go on dates and spend time with me all the time and im not saying i dont but its just that i know that my dad will not allow it. my boyfriend has a car but my dad wont let me ride in it with him because he says he knows what "happens" in the car. so when i ask my dad can me and my boyfriend go somewhere he says "how are you getting there?" he always tries to drop us off and pick us up but then we just end up canceling everything we had planned. Also my dad wont let me go over his house so there has been multiple times where i lie to him and say im going somewhere with my friends , the part that gets me the most upset is all my boyfriend really likes to do is watch tv and have conversations but my dad just believes he wants sex. he comes over my house about 3 times a week ive been to his house only 5 or 6 times but its from me sneaking so i cant even stay as long as he stays at my house. can someone please give me some advice on what i should d0.
GunslingerRoland Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 1) How old are you? If you're over 18, you can do what you want. 2) Next time your dad says something stupid, like "anything can happen in a car". Remind him that anything can happen pretty much anywhere. If you want to have sex with your bf in the movie theatre you can do it, and he has to trust your decision making rather than trying to put up arbitrary boundaries on where you can go with him. 3) Your dad is probably right, your bf does want sex. He's supposed to, you're supposed to too. Don't be naïve, if you act that naïve to your dad he's more likely to step in to protect you.
Author lovelifesmile Posted November 17, 2015 Author Posted November 17, 2015 im 16, my mom doesnt have a problem with me going over his house or anything but she wont say anything to my dad
d0nnivain Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Stop lying to your dad. Have your BF get his butt over to your house & start spending time with you there. Your father needs to see that your BF is an honorable boy with good intentions not some sex crazed teen who only wants to get into his baby's pants. Trust me your father may be overreacting but telling him that won't help Your BF has to win him over. After some time spent at your house, perhaps your BF can raise the subject of his safe driving record & offer to take dad for a ride so dad can assess BF's driving skills for himself. If you are occasionally allowed to go out in the BF's car take pains to be home at least 15 minutes before your curfew. If you act like a mature responsible person you should be treated like one but understand it will be tough for your dad to let you go. 3
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