Michelle225 Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for 5 years He was my first true love and we always had a great relationship but lately he had a hard time at work and was very distant,mean and judgemental He never told me anything was wrong, he kept saying everything is fine until he asked for a break that led to a breakup after a few days Harsh things were said becase he threw me out of his apartment How can someone that loved me so much act this way all of a sudden? I just don't know how I can move on, I feel my whole world is destroyed:(
7121157 Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 I have been in a relationship with a wonderful man for 5 years He was my first true love and we always had a great relationship but lately he had a hard time at work and was very distant,mean and judgemental He never told me anything was wrong, he kept saying everything is fine until he asked for a break that led to a breakup after a few days Harsh things were said becase he threw me out of his apartment How can someone that loved me so much act this way all of a sudden? I just don't know how I can move on, I feel my whole world is destroyed:( I'm sorry you're experiencing this. It definitely is a horrible feeling. I'm currently trying to heal from a breakup as well. What I've learned is that you can't force anyone to be with you, or love you. He made the decision to leave the relationship. I know its painful, but you have to take baby steps to move forward. Take it day by day. I know its easier said then done. You probably have a lot of emotions right now. Take the time to feel the loss, cry, and let go. Eventually, you have to keep pushing forward. Love yourself and most importantly take care of yourself. I know it seems like the world is over, but its not. There are tons of people on here that is experiencing the same thing. Youre not alone. 3
Author Michelle225 Posted November 25, 2015 Author Posted November 25, 2015 Unfortunatelly I took the revenge path when I packed the rest of my stuff, I left him without a few basic things he needed, threw some things, and other childish actions. I texted and called constantly for a few days even after he blocked me. Changed my number, called and called and I went through phases like I'm sorry, take me back and than hate texts. This lasted for about two weeks. Today we had our last conversation and he told me that he has no regrets, that if I would't have behaved like this maybe he would have changed his mind. Why would he torture me and make me feel guilty? I admit i am not happy with my behaviour but he kept saying maybe if you wouldn't have done that and that. I just hope I won't ever break down like that, I know I am better than this but I still have a sense of guilt tormenting me. I don't really care about his forgiveness, i just feel like i gave him another excuse to come out as the victim. Anyway are there other stalker exes here that can give some advice?
Nickr3023 Posted November 25, 2015 Posted November 25, 2015 You're going to ebb and flow. By the day, by the hour, hell sometimes by the minute. There's gonna be times you feel like you've moved on and you feel great, then there's gonna be a trigger that's gonna break you down. Just accept all of it as it's all perfectly normal. As difficult as it is for almost everyone on this forum, go with the no contact route. If you want him back, which you may realize you don't after some time off, then let him miss you. When you go no contact, that means you've taken control of the situation. If he tries to contact you.....then YOU'RE in control, you get to decide if he gets to speak to you or not. The longer you stay in control, the better off you're going to be. We've all been through this, most people wouldn't wish these feelings on their worst enemy because it's simply awful. Anytime you have the urge to talk to him, come on here and start replying to other people. Help them, give them encouragement, understand that we're all going through the same thing together.....trust me it'll make you feel better and the urge to talk to him will diminish. 1
Author Michelle225 Posted November 25, 2015 Author Posted November 25, 2015 You're going to ebb and flow. By the day, by the hour, hell sometimes by the minute. There's gonna be times you feel like you've moved on and you feel great, then there's gonna be a trigger that's gonna break you down. Just accept all of it as it's all perfectly normal. As difficult as it is for almost everyone on this forum, go with the no contact route. If you want him back, which you may realize you don't after some time off, then let him miss you. When you go no contact, that means you've taken control of the situation. If he tries to contact you.....then YOU'RE in control, you get to decide if he gets to speak to you or not. The longer you stay in control, the better off you're going to be. We've all been through this, most people wouldn't wish these feelings on their worst enemy because it's simply awful. Anytime you have the urge to talk to him, come on here and start replying to other people. Help them, give them encouragement, understand that we're all going through the same thing together.....trust me it'll make you feel better and the urge to talk to him will diminish. Thank you. I am sure he won't be coming back. We have seen the worst of eachother and he claims he is in shock, dissapointed in me and all of that. I hope I will not feel the urge to contact him ever. Because he never understood how much pain he put me through. A man that says he will call the police on you because of some texts and calls is not a man that I should want. I know I will still have urges to call and I will do my best to keep my mind occupied and be active here
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