Jesse101 Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 Me and this girl have only hung out two times... Other than the fact that I work with her but we really can't have a conversation or chill due to how instance our job is. I really like her and she like me as well, she considers Us as talking and wants to take things slow and not rush Which is fine with me. The only problem I have is judging when to make a move like holding her hand or kissing her. I really want to do both but I don't know if by "taking it slow" means like no contact at all. I really don't want to push it and make things weird.
PogoStick Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 How old are both of you, and what kind of employment do you have?
d0nnivain Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 Well certainly don't do either of those things at work. Ask her to do something with you after work & for heaven's sake, don't phrase it as "wanna hang out." As silly as this sounds watch the movie Hitch. Will Smith's character offers some good advice for the 1st kiss.
Ic1 Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 The only problem I have is judging when to make a move like holding her hand or kissing her. I really want to do both but I don't know if by "taking it slow" means like no contact at all. I really don't want to push it and make things weird. Unfortunately there's not standard timeframe for how long you've known them until you can make the move of holding a hand, kissing, cuddling, and so on. The 'time' that you can make a 'move' of any sort is really based on how comfortable you both are. When you both know you're both completely comfortable doing it. Sort of like you both lean in to kiss each other. NOT one approaching the other, but the other doesn't move back because they want it too.
Author Jesse101 Posted November 17, 2015 Author Posted November 17, 2015 How old are both of you, and what kind of employment do you have? I'm 17 she's 18, we are servers at a restaurant..
GemmaUK Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 Well certainly don't do either of those things at work. Ask her to do something with you after work & for heaven's sake, don't phrase it as "wanna hang out." As silly as this sounds watch the movie Hitch. Will Smith's character offers some good advice for the 1st kiss. D0nn, none of that sounds silly in the least. Hitch is a great film but yep, also there is some damn good advice in it!
d0nnivain Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 I'm 17 she's 18, we are servers at a restaurant.. So when your shift ends, ask if she wants to get a coffee or ice cream with you somewhere else. 1
GunslingerRoland Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 Step 1) Try to go on a real date, not just "hanging out" although I know it's the in thing for young people these days, she'll be impressed that you are actually making the effort to do a planned activity with her. It will also force her to make a decision on if she really wants to date you or not, if she does, just let things progress naturally. Taking it slow, might be code for just not into you in this case though... but it's better to know sooner rather than later. 1
Author Jesse101 Posted November 19, 2015 Author Posted November 19, 2015 Step 1) Try to go on a real date, not just "hanging out" although I know it's the in thing for young people these days, she'll be impressed that you are actually making the effort to do a planned activity with her. It will also force her to make a decision on if she really wants to date you or not, if she does, just let things progress naturally. Taking it slow, might be code for just not into you in this case though... but it's better to know sooner rather than later. That's what I thought.. She might not be that into me.. But she told me she hopes that my parents like her.. And that she'd rather be with me than with any of her friends.. I guess what she really said was she didn't want to rush things..
Miss Peach Posted November 19, 2015 Posted November 19, 2015 My guess based on what you posted here is that she's just normal teenage shy, nervous, not experienced, etc. I broke up with my HS BF because I was too scared to kiss him. All this BF/GF is new and it takes some time to be confident about it. I would just ask her to spend some time with you outside of work. Start by touching her in conversation like on the hand, arm, or shoulder and watch her reaction. 1
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