noname Posted May 27, 2005 Posted May 27, 2005 Originally posted by Jtizzle Key point in what u stated..THATS WHAT I DO...thats you babydoll, not me..and to end your so called curiousity as to why i see it NECESSARY to make a formal request.. is so that they can think of the stuff they want to know ahead of time.. i hate wasting time with someone thats not worth it..and as i stated, this helps ME to do this..if it aint what your all about, why worry about wtf im doing that helps me decide on what i like in a man, and why i like them, and how i get to like him. dont knock what im doing cuz u dont see it fit..everyone doesnt think like u, wont act like u, so to bash at what im doin is out of line..i simply asked how do YOU as a person find a person worth YOUR time, not how what works for me is a flawed test at relationships..if i needed that to be said, then i would have posted: how do i go about finding someone that is worth my time, or what am i doing wrong... different strokes for different folks whoa.... slow down killa... no need for all the hostility. i understand after reading your original post, that you were just asking for peoples methods and not necessarily for critiques on yours, so i apologize for not just giving you a straight forward answer without commentary. but two things 1) people did answer you (including Crazy_grl) and you lumped everyone in with those you were upset with and 2) this is a forum for discussions. that's what people do. they ask questions, make comments, and critique. maybe sometimes people get carried away and tell you how wrong your approach is, but some people like to ask questions to find out why you do what you do and possibly see if it'll work for them or not... that is just how people discuss. if you are opposed to that type of reaction in future posts, might i suggest that you put in a disclaimer or a public service announcement that says that you are merely asking for people's methods and that you are not looking for feedback on yours. i think that might get you what you want. p.s. notice i didn't resort to calling you Toots or Lambchop...
shamen Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 Originally posted by Jtizzle what do you do that tells u if a person is worth dating? or mayb i should ask how do u know/realize a person is worth dating? I'm one of those awful people that has a list of requirements before I'll even consider dating someone... He must... 1) Have a job 2) Not live with his parents 3) Not be a drug addict (new one! ) 4) Have a car (the city I live in is not too conducive to dealing with public transportation) And from there, it's all a matter of compatibility. There are lots of little things that I'd like in a guy, but I'm flexible. If we get along great and he treats me well, I'm all set. No more of this treating me poorly crap.
Marshbear Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 I don't think your technique is flawed. I sometimes think that we put soooo much into the chemistry that we overlook the flaws in the people were dating. You can have a great looking package but when you open it up the inside is pathetic and weak. The 20 questions thing is a little mechanical but if it helps you to choose the person for you them by all means use it. I like a person who asks me questions and also who doesn't mind telling me I'm acting like a s*** sometimes. Someone who agrees with me all the time is suspicious. Give me some interactive dialogue and a fun, neat person with a little physical attraction and I'm good to go. Peace...
d'Arthez Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 I would see a questionnaire as a vote of no confidence. Either in me, or the one who puts forth the questions. I can answer any question, and I will, but only in the course of normal conversation. Homework derails me. And what sense does it make, if you can use a dictionary, and other artificial means to improve your score on the exam? Either way, regardless of the questions, I would step out.
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