Photos, letters, cards - Return to or from ex

[moonglow]

Photos, cards or letters. Has anyone sent any of these back to ex or had them returned from ex?

[moonglow]

Photos, cards, letters. Has anyone returned any of these to ex or had them returned from ex?

[kodiak]

Moonglow-

 

I havnt sent any of that stuff back to my ex who so you know after a year apart I am still deeply inlove with. I have yet to meet another like her and nor do I think I ever will. Anyways back to your question. So I took all the photos, cards, gifts, etc.. and packed them up and gave them to my mom to hold onto. I know that if I kept on to them, those days that you feel lonely and miss them, I would look through it all. I feel that sending that stuff back is kinda immature, but thats just my opinion. Whether your ex broke your heart or it was the other way around, more than likely they do hurt too, even if they broke up with you. I loved my ex so very much that I would not want to do anything that would hurt them, you know what I mean? Anyways hold onto all that stuff, in the end you will want to look back on them, I promise. I hope this helped you.......

[whtelightn]

moonglow wrote:

 

Photos, cards, letters. Has anyone returned any of these to ex or had them returned from ex?

 

Yes, my ex did that in April when it was her bday. However before I knew that I had sent a letter to her in telling her how I felt. However she read the letter and it was returned with the top retaped again. So why read the letter and then return it. When I asked her about the Bday card her answer was I AM BOTHERING HER. Can you beleive that. BUt then a week later she seeks me out and starting talking about her dad court case acting like nothing she did was wrong or bothersome, I was short with her and had an attitdue with her. Then 3 weeks later she had to say something to me again so now it has been 3 weeks again of NC.

She had accepted a Xmas card and Vday card but then Bday card return just a week before her bday we went out to lunch etc and before the lunch she was the one making the contact and talking to me and I am bothering her. GET REAL. My friends all say there is something wrong with her to do that.

 

Do I feel like returning the things to her of the things that she gave me. I just may eventually but don't know because that means it would be stooping to her childish behavior or whatever behavior it is.

 

How did it make me feel. I was shocked and almost laughed about it, but I also think that she may have been looking for me to get upset but I did not and I said OK and hung up the phone. Just like when she broke up with me and told her IT WAS GOING TO BE HER LOSS NOT MINE, She fell apart.

[greenhorn]

I think that once when the relationship is over then thinking about this is like doing a post-mortem. Do not worry about your stuff left with your ex or you having stuff of your ex, this should never become a reason for one to contact ex.

 

If it is getting so much then I would suggest put all the stuff in the box, then go to the cemetry, dig a grave and put all the stuff in there and thats it, you have the grave of your relationship

[Jadey]

Nope ive kept them , Like i still have most of his text messages in my phone I read them often, thats quite hard really. All the "i love you so much" "dont ever leave me" "im so glad were together" "i miss you" Blah blah blah...

 

Its probably best to delete them really, but i dont feel quite ready yet.

 

My friend has a card that i made him at school still in her school bag, i still have the gifts he brought me, its hard. But im not returning them. Sometimes it is good to have memories really.

 

I did give him his Green Day CD he let me borrow. He let me borrow it just before we went out, and when we split he said i could keep it looking really concernd like that was his way of making up for dumping me lmao. I had broke the case accidently by then anyway, so brought it to school and gave it back.

 

He said he still have all my stuff i wrote him and got him