goldbond Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 There is a guy who is/was interested in me. The first time we hung out he came across as very strongly looking/wanting a relationship (he is 35, I am 27) and it really freaked me out so we didn't talk for a few months. After that, we ran into each other at an event and hung out the entire time, ended up having sex that night, and everything was more or less fine. He is very easy and comfortable for me to be around (at events, at least). [i had very fond feelings for him after that night] We hung out after that and I was able to talk super openly about 1. not wanting a relationship-I'm still figuring out who I am, and 2. some fear over loss of friendships since we are in the same community. We have some mutual friends in common but more like friend-acquaintances. It makes me super anxious to think about. It's not easy for me to make good friends and I don't want to screw anything up. So I'm not exactly sure if I should pursue this or not, or even a friendship? I would like to get to know him more and I do enjoy spending time with him, but he has openly said he is ready for a relationship and i am not (haven't even dated really for the last year) My last relationship was also pretty terrible so I can't tell exactly if I'm so hesitant because I'm scared to date again or if it's really just about potentially screwing up some friendships. Thoughts?
jen1447 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Sounds bad on all fronts - if you're still figuring out who you are, you're in no condition to enter a romantic relationship at all, and if he's interested in romance, trying to just have a friendship with him would be unrealistic. Take care of yourself first, and when you're sorted out you'll be in a much better place to make good decisions about stuff like this. Good luck.
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