runningscared79 Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 So... there's a guy that I have this crush on. He coached my son's football team this year and every practice or game, he'd find a reason to walk up and say hello or make small talk. I always kept it short because he's gorgeous and I just feel out of his league. His son and mine are best friends. I'd hate to go out on a limb thinking he might like me etc and make an idiot of myself. So i've been accessible and friendly but have made no kind of advancements. Well, we are friends on Facebook but really don't have conversations. Every once in awhile he will like something I posted or I'll like something he posted (im careful not to look like a stalker lol). Well, I had a rough morning and posted something on facebook about how crappy my morning was going. A half hour later, he texted me! He NEVER texts me, has NEVER texted me. I only have his number because he's one of the coaches. Any time we've ever talked was in person or just a word or two on Facebook. But he texted me saying he was sorry I was having a bad day and hoped it got better soon. I didn't know how to respond. I keep hoping that maybe he likes me too and now that football season is over, he and I would find some way to still talk or one of us make a move since we wouldn't be running into each other every week like we have been the last few months. I am too afraid to flirt with him, but at the same time, I can't tell if he talks to me just to be POLITE or if he is putting feelers out there. What are your thoughts? One of my male co-workers said he probably DOES like me because he said a guy would never go out of his way to text something like that. He said a good friend might respond on facebook but wouldn't go out of their way to send a text. I didn't even know how to respond to him. How do I let the guy know i like him without looking like an idiot and getting rejected? Am I being too hopeful here?
Redfisher Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Yes he likes you, Easy for a dude to see...Just text him back, Thank him and be light and cheery. Maybe crack a joke or two, Hell women up and ask him out for a coffee.... 4
Samhain Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 I'd say there's definite interest there for him to have put in the thought to text you, especially since he has never done it before. Don't make it sound so daunting just reply and thank him and be light like redfisher said. You don't have to even make it obvious you like him if you're nervous of how he will take it, so just be friendly and see where it goes! 1
RecentChange Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Well look at it this way, your options are for it to go somewhere - or get rejected. Gotta take some risks to reap rewards! Like the other poster said, write him back something light and positive, I don't think it would hurt to let him know you are happy to hear from him. My bet? If he sees you are receptive he will up the anti and start flirting Me, I would probably say something along the lines of "oh hey there, good to hear from you! Rough morning but I am fine now how are you?" And don't discount yourself, there have been a few times when I thought "this guy is out of my league" and they ended up persuing - we ended up an item. You might be surprised (I and my long time dude confessed to thinking the other was "out of our league" when we met). 1
Author runningscared79 Posted November 16, 2015 Author Posted November 16, 2015 I wrote back " Thank you, that's sweet of you... your text definitely helped." I guess I wish I was better at conversating with him. I want him to know I like him.. but again.. don't want to mistake his politeness for something it isn't. I do know he doesn't really carry on conversations with anyone else at football... I tried to make sure I wasn't imagining that lol... but I did pay attention. you would think at 36 I'd know how to pursue a man I like.. but I'm so afraid of looking stupid.
Redfisher Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 I wrote back " Thank you, that's sweet of you... your text definitely helped." I guess I wish I was better at conversating with him. I want him to know I like him.. but again.. don't want to mistake his politeness for something it isn't. I do know he doesn't really carry on conversations with anyone else at football... I tried to make sure I wasn't imagining that lol... but I did pay attention. you would think at 36 I'd know how to pursue a man I like.. but I'm so afraid of looking stupid. Argh.... Never be afraid, Now text him right back and ask him if he wants to meet up!
RecentChange Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 He liiiiikes you. Come on' would you text an acquaintance you werent interested in about their morning? Don't be too shy to show you are really interested in him next time you see him. Talk to him, up the body launage, play with your hair, smile a lot, lots of eye contact, close the bubble of space a bit - give him some neutral touches (shouldr etc).
Maggie4 Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Ah, you should have asked him a question so he can text back. Let us know if he follows up with a text. He took a big step and opened the text door. You don't want to just say Thank you and close the door. I agree with the others, men don't make this effort unless interested. But I wouldn't ask him out just yet. I'd get a conversation going first.
kitty12345 Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 He likes you but watch out as your kids are friends.
Redfisher Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 He likes you but watch out as your kids are friends. Whats that mean?
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