ricky_Mumbai Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 I have had two serious relationships and it never came to marriage. Reason being Family did not approve for one reason or the other Now I am married to someone I never really loved and want out. Its tough but live has to move on. The problems is kids. Any suggestion on the cleanest way for divorce and kids being least affected.
casey.lives Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 for the kids to be least affected. you have to cut fast. No vacillating .. bloodying up a situation. Just let the kids sort out their relationship with their other parent - they will naturally adapt and settle. Your job is your half, if you need to do damage control, then do so.. but don't interfere. 1
Gloria25 Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 The kids "are" gonna be affected no matter what... The best thing you can do is be amicable with the parent and be involved with your kids life as much as you can. Like, -Don't move to another state or something weird like that. Be near your kids. -Don't do the whole "Mon, Wed, Fri" sleep at mom, Tues, Thurs, weekends with dad. That is freakin ridiculous. Can you imagine having to bunk at a different house every other day for the rest of your life? I say have one parent with primary custody where they sleep and the other simply have a key to the house and be "involved" (i.e. pick up the kids from school and spend the afternoon there till kids go to bed). -Don't remarry and make more kids. PERIOD. I don't even wanna go into the hurt that does to the kids from the divorce. -If you date, don't tell your ex and keep it on the downlow. Your kids need you and are your priority and whomever is dating you needs to be your "hamburgers on the weekend" person. If I think of more things, I'll post. 1
burnt Posted November 17, 2015 Posted November 17, 2015 I have had two serious relationships and it never came to marriage. Reason being Family did not approve for one reason or the other Now I am married to someone I never really loved and want out. Its tough but live has to move on. The problems is kids. Any suggestion on the cleanest way for divorce and kids being least affected. I don't have children, but I do know what it feels like to live with parents who don't love each other and how that lack of affection turns into toxic bitterness, abuse and resentment in the entire family. And the kids end up paying the harshest of price for all that. So I'm glad that you have decided to leave the unhappy marriage. (You are very brave to listen to yourself and decide for yourself now, especially with that history of having your partner being chosen/rejected by your family.) While some think divorce can damage the psyche of the kids, it can actually teach them how to make healthy, but hard life choices. End it as amicably as possible and make sure that after the divorce the kids still feel loved and respected by both parents. Best of luck. 1
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