EO422 Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 So, I met this girl. Don't really need specifics, just looking for insight. Anyways, I met this girl and at first I was like "ehh" about her..she was cute, not totally mouth drooling over. I have known her for about 2 months now. I hangout with her A LOT. It seems that each time I hangout with her, I start growing to like her more and more. Her personality is amazing, I love it, she is so concentrated on school and we were studying together yesterday and she is super smart. I looked at her studying really quick and she was so into it and for some reason I found it so attractive and hot. she has a great personality and has goals of where she wants to be in life. She is smart, funny. I am also starting to find her more beautiful. Yesterday, we went to the beach at night time to look at the stars, and I just had this urge to hold her and kiss her as well. Now, we are just friends, but I am starting to think I am liking her more than that. I do have my doubts tho. She is cute, she is looking more and more attractive to me but, not too sure if I am so crazy about it. She is my really good friend as well...I don't want to get into a relationship with her and then loose a great friendship. Although what if we were meant to be more? Other than that there is nothing. She is an amazing person, her personality and eyes have me absolutely hooked. I am in love with her personality. What do y'all think I should do? Something I should go for or leave alone?
lilmissjava Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 I think you should just let it roll out naturally. Keep spending time together, I am certain she will pick up on any vibes you are giving her. Additionally, beauty is in the eye of the beholder and in my opinion, it's the inner beauty that is radiating here, despite her lack of being drop dead gorgeous. It is perfectly all right to drool over someone's personality and other meaningful qualities and and look beyond the exterior. 1
Glitters Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 IMO, personality compatibility is important for long term happiness. Many people fake it initially but its not sustainable . Thats one of the reason people start having issues when the real person begins to show. I would advice to let your feelings develop. But does she see you the way you see her?Is it mutual ? 1
casey.lives Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 (edited) Just keep hanging out and supporting each other. Being a good influence is paramount for a real sustainable shared future with anyone you care about. Let your care prove itself to both her and yourself. Attraction is natural between the opposite sex, in the moon light.. but care is tested. hang in there and enjoy the ride.. let the slow boil happen.. it's more existing that way It's my favourite way.... Edited November 16, 2015 by casey.lives 1
Author EO422 Posted November 16, 2015 Author Posted November 16, 2015 Alright I will let it roll out and take its time! I am sure she is picking up on some of my vibes! I mean, I am not giving many hints. I kinda stand close to her and she will also come closer as well. That's all I have basically! I mean she seems like she is totally into me! At least from what I can tell! I am not 100% sure but I can kind of tell she is into me. I hope so, because if I tell her and she says she isn't, then it would somewhat crush me! I would feel so stupid!
Mystique01 Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Aww that's too cute OP. It's good to know that some girls can "grow" on guys. I find it more commendable that you aren't just focusing so much on her outer looks and instead you are seeing the beauty in her PERSONALITY. Honestly, like other posters mentioned looks come and go, but personality, chemistry, and the "inner person" lasts forever. I'd much rather be with a guy who I had things in common with, loved to be around, and who I had CHEMISTRY with, as opposed to being w/a guy who most people found to be conventionally "handsome", but who I didn't really "vibe" with well. I wish more guys were like you and looked more at the inner personality of a girl as opposed to just discounting women simply because they don't fit some mold of what society deems as "Beautiful". A LOT of GREAT wonderful women with awesome personalities repeatedly get passed over simply because they aren't an 8 - 10 in looks, and it's a shame. 1
AdrianLee Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 E0422, I can sense that you are really falling in love with this natural beauty girl of yours. You know in a relationship stuff, it is either cruel or sweet. Most of the readers here would advise you to hang on, but I'm totally opposite to what they suggested, but ultimately it is my own opinion and view about this. Don't get angry ok.... Firstly, I want to know, how long will you hold back to let her know that you really like or love her? If she come across another suitor, will you get jealous? Will you regret not letting her know your inner feelings about her? And when there's Mr.B around, will it be more difficult to get your words out of your chest? Have you consider all this in a worst case scenario? Loving a lady, I know it takes a lot of courage to say it out, but if you don't, you'll see it slipping away. If you tell it to her, she realised it, and if is for you, she'll agree, if she isn't mend for you, just take it with a pitch of salt. At least when you know Mr. B around, you won't be awkward. Be more courageous, people asked you to hang on first and let it happen naturally, in my opinion is like taking risk. You won't know what will happen tomorrow. Take my advise, go for it, tell it to her, then you'll be more peaceful and let the love in between the both of you blossom, that will be even more sweet.
Maxtor Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 If you like her, please, move now and fast. Dont wait till you are in the dreaded friendzone. I did that mistake, a girl started growing on me, we were just friends, i let time pass, i thought that with time she would start to like me aswell, but nope, i ended in the friendzone. JUST DO IT!
Zippy2000 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Your best to ask her now. You can only grow so much before you fall deeply BUT the other person might not feel the same. To reply about people growing on you. It can happen and I ve seen this happen to me with someone at work where the attraction grew over time. I believe its about who you are exposed to and how you interact with them when they are in your lives. I think you should go for it rather than let this go by after a few years you wished you had asked earlier.
Leigh 87 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 But what happens when the OP meets a girl who he is crazy about both physically and personality wise? He'll eventually meet another girl he clicks with AND with whom he feels strong attraction to. I would personally not want a partner who was lukewarm about my looks to begin with and hsd to grow into me.
Ic1 Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Yesterday, we went to the beach at night time to look at the stars, and I just had this urge to hold her and kiss her as well. Now, we are just friends, but I am starting to think I am liking her more than that. I do have my doubts tho. Love is friendship on fire. Because you have a foundation of a strong friendship already, you have what's best for a stable relationship. Like others have said, let it roll and I'd actually be surprised if she didn't have some feelings for you as well if you've been giving off this vibe and she hasn't been cutting back on how much time spent with you. Eventually bring your feelings to the surface with her, and talk to her about it.
xUnknown Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 How old are you two? Ask her out this weekend. Just friends don't go look at the starts on the beach at night... My money is on she's feeling what you're feeling. Make a move on her. Seriously though, the starts at night on the beach, that was the moment to kiss her. If it happens again, look into her eyes, and hold it there. If she holds the same, kiss her.
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