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Greetings... Again,

 

Exactly 2 months ago, I was dumped from a 3+ year relationship. We loved each other profoundly, but I was being exhausted from maintaining not only our relationship, but from my demanding career, and sick grandmother as well. Eventually, she had enough, and also claimed that she "needed to grow and find herself (I'm 34, she's 24). However, not only did she comment about us potentially reuniting in the future, but also messaged a friend of ours, saying that she hopes we fall in love again, one day.

 

Some days it seems to get easier, some days are even more painful, and doesn't seem that anything has changed. We had real plans for the future, marriage, kids, saving up for a house, etc. I'm in a complete funk, resisting a drug relapse, and have ZERO interest in returning to work. I find myself reunited with a part of my life that I figured to be long gone. But here we are.

 

My question is this... How long does it take to fully recover from 3+ years with someone, what are some things that helped you guys. It's tough, cause I didn't just lose her, I lost my life associated with us. And her family referred to me as their son in law. Their the only parents who have ever liked me. I'm usually viewed as the "bad boy". I don't know, this is tough, and laying alone at night, is torture. I absolutely despise going to sleep. I've only slept with the TV off once in the last 2 months.

 

Advice?

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If she does have plans of reuniting in the future, why break it off in the first place? I'd say she's found a reason to get rid of you.

 

She's right about one thing though, she DOES need to grow. She cant even give you the support you need in your hardest moments.

 

My advice, put all your energy into helping your sick grandmother and excelling at your work. Do anything that keeps you busy and don't ever sacrifice sleep. Sleeplessness fuels that "torture" feeling even more.

 

cheers

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