Bobbi7 Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks now, in the beginning he would initiate contact like normal, as guys would do, to set up dates and stuff like that. Then, when he didn't contact me like mid-week, I would contact him and see if he would want to get together on the weekends. He always wants to get together when I reach out to him, but other than that, it seems like he doesn't contact me first like he did in the beginning, not even like a-"what have you been up to text." We are not officially dating, just spending time together. His actions, the way he treats me, tells me that he hasn't lost interest, but he goes a week without reaching out to me? I've been doing all the contacting, so I'm not sure if he's just wanting to see me because nothing better has come up-like another girl. But I assume that we are in the "comfort zone" where its OKAY for me to contact him first? I don't want to have to chase him down 100% of the time. If he goes a week without contacting me, has really lost interest? What's the norm on this?
LilaMarie Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Communication is the key in ANY relationship. Why do you not discuss how you feel?
FeelingFireworks Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 You say in the beginning....lol, this still IS the beginning. You've only been dating for a few weeks for heavens sake. I agree with LilaMarie that communication is an important facet of a relationship. BUT I'm personally against having these kind of discussions at the start. To me they come across as heavy. Things are supposed to be organic and free-flowing at this stage. What I do is I say stuff like: 'I love when a man calls me. Hearing his voice is sexy' 'I love a man to guide the relationship and set dates. I find that Kind of leadership a strong quality' , etc If he does those things, I replace the words 'a man' with the word 'you'. It acknowledges his efforts with positive reinforcement. What man (or person) doesn't love that? Just mean it when you say it. You get the point. Then basically see what he's willing to do of his own accord without pressure. im a believer that interested men set up dates without prompting though some may require a little encouragement. If not, you're dating either a romantically passive man (so be prepared to initiate often) or someone who seems interested in you but only until something better comes along (best believe he'll actively pursue them). Make you're choice based on that.
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