ForeverAlone; The thought of being single for the rest of your life makes you feel?

[adiamond]

Lonely but free

[BronzeAgeJaeger217]

Obviously makes me feel like ****

[truth_seeker]

lol no

 

 

I make close to about a deuce, drive a beautiful luxury sports sedan, have a pretty nice house in a great area (although it's only about 2,000 sqr feet, I figured anything more for 1 person would be a waste), no debt, wear very trendy clothes, go to nice restaurants/bars, etc... and I've never had a girlfriend. I'm 26 years old BTW. Nothing wrong at all with how I look either.

 

If you're good looking and have money, women should be flocking your way. Are you a gigolo?

[truth_seeker]

I don't know where you live, but i don't even flinch unless a person is driving a 100k car.

 

barbossa is Paris Hilton?

[WaitingForBardot]

I have no frame of reference to understand when people think like this. Seems to me this kind of negativity must create a self-fulfilling prophecy. Not once in my entire life, even after a painful breakup, have I ever thought I wouldn't meet someone new. I'm already old, and not particularly outgoing, but I still occasionally meet women that I hit it off with well enough that we'd probably date if I wasn't already married.

 

I wish I could offer more than the not-particularly-helpful advice to try to change your outlook.

[casey.lives]

Relationships have done nothing for me but the worst, im not the naive little girl i used to be.. and im in a happy place..thank you. I like the idea of being single forever. I feel safest alone. I relish in my own ability to protect myself now. I have no interest in family or children anymore, argo love.

Edited November 16, 2015 by casey.lives

[joseb]

I have no frame of reference to understand when people think like this. Seems to me this kind of negativity must create a self-fulfilling prophecy. Not once in my entire life, even after a painful breakup, have I ever thought I wouldn't meet someone new.

 

Yeah I've suffered my share of ups and downs on the love game, but I must admit I never had this thought either. Perhaps it's because I've never really been that bothered about it one way or another. I'm as happy single (maybe moreso).

[hotpotato]

If i were single forever, I'd be fine.

 

A few weeks ago, i was talking one of my solo night time walks. I got to chill and look at the stars. So relaxing. I thought to myself, "If this is being single, this is not a bad thing."

 

I dont think people have to get old, a lot of what you see is people not taking care of themselves. If I want to look younger, I'm not oppose to cosmetic surgery. Matter of fact, i'm getting skin treatments as soon as I get the money. People think i look 12 years younger than what I am. I'm not that concerned with looking too old.

 

I do think it's harder for older women than for older men. That being said, if i stay single forever, I'll be fine. I'll be quite happy. In fact, bf says I looked really happy when we met.

 

I planned to be single, and now I'm dating someone. It's awkward bc I made all these plans with the assumption that i'd be single indefinitely.

[Redfisher]

you might be lucky, Just do a search how hard guys have it for OLD. your situation is rare

 

Luck? Maybe... Karma for almost dying in a head on crash 2 years ago? Maybe..

Whatever it is I'm going to ride it for all its worth, And the girl who steals my heart will get my full attention and love like no other.

[Heatherknows]

And the girl who steals my heart will get my full attention and love like no other.

 

Awwww....that's cute.

[burnt]

If you got money none of the above matters.

 

There once lived a king named Midas…

 

And you chose 'TruthSeeker' as your username?

I find that slightly ironic.

 

May I suggest:

Keep thy mind open, and keep on seeking…

For, thou hath not found 'truth' yet…

[burnt]

I don't know what's worse: being old and alone with nobody to take care of you, or being old with a family composed of vultures waiting to feed from your carcass.

 

But then is then and now is now. Your problem is now, so focus on it now.

 

Oh, hey, don't insult the vultures! They are a vital part of nature to keep things in balance.

 

I watched a documentary once about a tribe somewhere near Tibet; when someone has passed away, instead of burying or burning, they take the corpse to a high mountain and leave it for the scavengers to feed on, as a way to show respect for all forms of life in nature and as a way to return back to earth and to be one with nature after death.

[Radarsat]

It's all about your state of mind. Fat old people with a positive attitude/confindence have np attracting a partner.

 

You couldn't be more wrong. I know it's the "right" thing to say. But it's just not true. I'm sorry.

[ZA Dater]

I think the answer to this is...to live for today.

[Radarsat]

Well I can tell you at the age of 41 and not being what I think is considered good looking I"m doing better at dating then i ever have in my life...I joined POF and had 10 or more women wanting to date me...I had to hide my profile cause I was getting in over my head...Not bragging but it blew me away, Im just a small town white boy who works in a factory and I'm getting dates with many women with degrees and amazing careers.. Only thing I have noticed is in this age bracket most girls are out of a bad marriage to a total dick and just want to be cared for by a nice guy..Im really caring and it shows... So Im saying it does not always get harder as you age... I tell you women in the 35 to 40 year range are the best...God bless them. Drops mic....

 

I'm 37 man and I wish I had your luck. Tried the whole Tinder/POF thing too and I'm a caring guy. Not looking for hookups or being all pushy with woman on there to get them into bed. Have been genuine and friends I know who are woman have said my profile is fine. But no matches, no luck. I tend to agree with the OP, as you get older, it DOES get much harder and chances go down hill. You are an exception and good on ya dude. Have fun. Wish I was there with you. : (

[Eternal Sunshine]

I dunno.

 

I have been dating someone for the past 8 months (on and off) that I know would marry me. I am sure that everyone would think that I have done so well. People tell me that my "bf" is a "very good looking guy". Yet from day 1, the intellectual connection and personality click were not quite there. He also has big time suppressed anger issues. Given that he is an introvert, I did hope that maybe he just needs time, but nope. My instincts from day 1 were spot on.

 

Why am I dating him? Because being an older women, there are not many options. I cringe at the thought of going back to OLD rounds, where maybe 1 out of 10 guys even want a relationship, let alone finding someone that I even remotely click with and am physically attracted to. I meet many people in real life whose company I immensely enjoy. But none of them are ever single men. Many have long since been off the market and enjoying stable and committed marriages. The best guys are gone.

 

I have been trying to imagine 2 futures: one married to my current guy and the other being permanently single. And you know what? Being permanently single is a far, FAR better option. In fact if I knew that I would be married to the current guy forever, I would go and jump off the bridge right now. And not just him, any guy that I am not attracted to on all levels.

 

Compared to that, being single is a wonderful option.

 

I think I know what I need to do

[BronzeAgeJaeger217]

And yet people make it out to be that it should feel like a blessing to be born male

[truth_seeker]

There once lived a king named Midas…

 

And you chose 'TruthSeeker' as your username?

I find that slightly ironic.

 

May I suggest:

Keep thy mind open, and keep on seeking…

For, thou hath not found 'truth' yet…

 

Look at older men who have lots and lots of money. They all have a young, beautiful women by their side. I'm not saying it's love, but the OP is talking about being single forever, getting old and being alone. If you have money you can buy companionship no matter how old and ugly you look. That was my point on that.

[Redfisher]

I dunno.

 

I have been dating someone for the past 8 months (on and off) that I know would marry me. I am sure that everyone would think that I have done so well. People tell me that my "bf" is a "very good looking guy". Yet from day 1, the intellectual connection and personality click were not quite there. He also has big time suppressed anger issues. Given that he is an introvert, I did hope that maybe he just needs time, but nope. My instincts from day 1 were spot on.

 

Why am I dating him? Because being an older women, there are not many options. I cringe at the thought of going back to OLD rounds, where maybe 1 out of 10 guys even want a relationship, let alone finding someone that I even remotely click with and am physically attracted to. I meet many people in real life whose company I immensely enjoy. But none of them are ever single men. Many have long since been off the market and enjoying stable and committed marriages. The best guys are gone.

 

I have been trying to imagine 2 futures: one married to my current guy and the other being permanently single. And you know what? Being permanently single is a far, FAR better option. In fact if I knew that I would be married to the current guy forever, I would go and jump off the bridge right now. And not just him, any guy that I am not attracted to on all levels.

 

Compared to that, being single is a wonderful option.

 

I think I know what I need to do

 

This saddens me...How old are you if I may ask?

[Redfisher]

Look at older men who have lots and lots of money. They all have a young, beautiful women by their side. I'm not saying it's love, but the OP is talking about being single forever, getting old and being alone. If you have money you can buy companionship no matter how old and ugly you look. That was my point on that.

 

Maybe so, But they will not be faithful and they will be cheating....Give me a normal everyday girl over a hottie any day.

[oberkeat]

Face it: The norm is that The older you get the less people you meet, the less attractive physically you become, the more emotional baggage you will carry, your chances gradually decrease as you age ( or are you the extremely rare anomaly?)

 

( the norm is you start losing your looks, your body degenerates, you become less social, less attractive in the dating market as you age, the dating pool for long term relationships also decreases)

 

In all honesty do you think you will do better 10, 20 years from now? possible yes. realistic? you tell me.

 

The thought of Being ForeverAlone, being perpetually single does what to you?

 

The thought of it makes me very angry, quite frankly.

 

I require regular sex in my life. Yet, at 29, it's harder than ever to find a partner. Sometimes it feels impossible. Nearly all of the women I approach are already taken! It sucks to be the odd man out, especially when you're putting yourself out there and making an effort.

[Rejected Rosebud]

Its harder for women. Cause men usually go to the younger ones. I'm 25 and I feel like I wasted all my good looking years. How sad.

You need an attitude adjustment!

[Rejected Rosebud]

Luck? Maybe... Karma for almost dying in a head on crash 2 years ago? Maybe..

Whatever it is I'm going to ride it for all its worth, And the girl who steals my heart will get my full attention and love like no other.

It's a relief to hear from a guy like you on a thread like this!!

 

You guys I think some of your Internet activities aren't helping you any. The whole idea of "forever alones" is just an Internet phenomena probably Reddit. And OP your ideas about "market value" and aging women just go hand in hand with the whole dumb package. In case you are dissatisfied with your life and your state of mind about your future you can always ditch that whole thing and get a new outlook on life.

[Rejected Rosebud]

The thought of it makes me very angry, quite frankly.

 

I require regular sex in my life.

I understand you're angry, but the fact that you're leading with "I need regular sex" in your search for a relationship (I got that from a thread of yours not just here) is probably standing in your way.

[oberkeat]

I understand you're angry, but the fact that you're leading with "I need regular sex" in your search for a relationship (I got that from a thread of yours not just here) is probably standing in your way.

 

 

If men didn't have sex drives, I doubt very many of them would bother with the frustration of dating.

 

Everyone has their own reasons for wanting a relationship. I don't think one is any less valid than the other. That's what a relationship is about -- both people are getting something they want from the other person, whether it's men wanting sex, or women wanting security or good conversation.

 

So, I don't think my sex drive is preventing me from finding a relationship. It's not like I'm walking up to these girls and saying "let's have sex!" and I have other qualities and things to offer than just my bedroom abilities.

Edited November 16, 2015 by oberkeat