jrode23 Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 I am 28 and it's been quite some time since I've actually gone through the process of dating. I dated a girl for over a year and, when we met, she was the first person whom I met from the dating site I was signed up on and we sort of just hit it off. I never dated anyone else after my first date with her and we were seeing each other once a week for awhile due to her schedule (which, then, I wish could have been more frequent). Anyway, I've been on six dates in the past three or four weeks (all via online dating) and it seems only two have stuck so far (in terms of seeming mutual interest). I went out with a girl on Thursday night for drinks and it seemed to go well. After the date, I asked her if she'd like to do dinner sometime. She said she was busy this weekend, but next week would be good. So, Friday morning I offered up Monday or Wednesday of this upcoming week and she chose Monday. Assuming things go well on Monday, I would probably inquire about hanging out next weekend. Is that progressing things too quickly? I suppose if she agrees to it, it's not, but there is always sort of subconscious thought about the perceived "rules" of dating. Also, I went out on a date last night (with a different girl) that went well. Upon the conclusion of it, she said, "thanks for the drinks, it was really nice meeting you. I'm sure I'll see you again." I took that as a cue and suggested dinner this week, to which she seemed interested in. This morning, I sent her a text that included a comment about the football game we were watching while at the bar and then something that said, "I had a really good time out with you last night. Let's definitely grab dinner this week" and then asked if one of two days this week worked for her. That was only a few hours ago, so no reply yet, but I'm anticipating a reply as it genuinely seemed to go well. I guess I just want to make sure my approach seems fine. I try not to get caught up in the "waiting to text" thing, scheduling dates too soon after a previous one, etc, etc, but I think it does naturally linger in my mind a little bit. I have kept it to only texting prior to the date if I think of something interesting from a previous date or confirming a time, because I don't want to be overwhelming. At the same time, I don't want to be completely silent as I sometimes worry this could have a negative impact as well. Probably much ado about nothing in here, just me getting back into the dating "scene" and thinking out loud I suppose. Would appreciate any feedback!
LilaMarie Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 It sounds like you are doing just fine on your own. Usually that is how it went for me. First meetup was drinks, then the guy would say he wanted to take me out on a real date (as in dinner), then we'd start seeing each other during the weekends. Just remember that some people have plans like two weeks in advance (so sometimes I had to decline Saturday but could see the guy on a Friday until we started making plans in advance). 1
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