I Had an Epiphany Tonight When I Went Out

November 15, 2015

LMAO, that is priceless. I get the point. I preach confidence all the time on this site. I agree with you on that. I almost liked your first post and then I realized it was......you. And sure enough the dialogue you usually spout started to come out and it was confirmed. You are underestimating other guys because you are only valuing a few areas of life (primarily materialism and earning capability, which I'm guessing is over-exaggerated anyway) AND you are over-estimating yourself. Your results with dating speak for themselves.

If you can adjust your attitude, add your newfound confidence and a big dose of humbleness and some empathy, take the chip off your shoulder and check back with us in a few weeks. I'll even help you think of a new screen name. SMH

Couple things here

1)I haven't exaggerated anything

2)I'm not talking about just one or two areas of my life. Between me and you, I think I'm pretty damn good at everything I do. I believe I have a healthy balance of all the traits that are important for men

3)I know a guy with a very beautiful and very sweet girlfriend who is like 30 lbs overweight, lives at home with his parents, works a dead end job, mediocre intelligence, etc... My point is that if these men can get an awesome girlfriend, what's been holding me back all these years is in my head

and here, I'm not saying I'm perfect. There are men out there who are a very good all around package, better than me. My point is that I'm a pretty decent all around package and I do deserve somebody I'm attracted to

November 15, 2015

Couple things here

1)I haven't exaggerated anything
2)I'm not talking about just one or two areas of my life. Between me and you, I think I'm pretty damn good at everything I do. I believe I have a healthy balance of all the traits that are important for men
3)I know a guy with a very beautiful and very sweet girlfriend who is like 30 lbs overweight, lives at home with his parents, works a dead end job, mediocre intelligence, etc... My point is that if these men can get an awesome girlfriend, what's been holding me back all these years is in my head

and here, I'm not saying I'm perfect. There are men out there who are a very good all around package, better than me.

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** My point is that I'm a pretty decent all around package and I do deserve somebody I'm attracted to***

Yes you do (we all do unless we're a serial killer or something... lol)....and, if nothing else, I hope your positive encounter with this older lady gave you that boost of confidence you need ...to go out and get her!

November 15, 2015

Couple things here

1)I haven't exaggerated anything
2)I'm not talking about just one or two areas of my life. Between me and you, I think I'm pretty damn good at everything I do. I believe I have a healthy balance of all the traits that are important for men
3)I know a guy with a very beautiful and very sweet girlfriend who is like 30 lbs overweight, lives at home with his parents, works a dead end job, mediocre intelligence, etc... My point is that if these men can get an awesome girlfriend, what's been holding me back all these years is in my head

and here, I'm not saying I'm perfect. There are men out there who are a very good all around package, better than me. My point is that I'm a pretty decent all around package and I do deserve somebody I'm attracted to

Hilarious, I knew that part was going to bug you and you came back with it as your first retort. I put it in there just as a tiny aside KNOWING you couldn't let it slide by. It just proves my point you think that matters more than it does. The positives of your real or imagined income do not make up for the negatives girls your age must be seeing in dating you. I'll say it again. Your dating results speak for themselves.

Yes it's in your head alright. (i remember the body shot you posted before and that was fine). It's not only confidence in your case. Though that's a good place to start. Though I don't know if newfound confidence combined with a superiority-inferiority complex is gonna help attract girls; I have a feeling it just might make the situation worse.

November 15, 2015

I was hanging out with my friend and this much older woman (but still pretty attractive) woman approached our group. I started talking to her and she just fell in love with me. She kept talking about how beautiful and gorgeous I was, about how sweet I was, etc... I probably could have taken her home but she was a little bit too old for my taste (had to be maybe 45, I'm 26). What was different in this interaction vs my other interactions with women is that I just felt fantastic inside so my confidence was impeccable.

I realized that what's been crushing me all these years has been my lack of confidence. I used to think that my looks, money, character, etc... would automatically afford me a great girlfriend but the honest reality of the situation is that women would rather date a short, fat, poor guy with bad hygiene who is a good speaker than a gorgeous, athletic, rich male who is a poor speaker.

I know this is going to sound like common sense but I've just never had it laid out so clearly right in front of me. I know what I have to do now in order to have the same impeccable confidence with all women that I had with her but I also have to overcome many of my emotional walls. I've never had a girlfriend so I'm equal parts terrified of rejection/failure/being judged and actually being successful and escaping my mental prison. I've convinced myself so much in the past that I will be alone forever and that I don't deserve a relationship with a girl I'm attracted to that it's become ingrained in me. Now that I can finally see that there is a light past it, I need to find a way to overcome it. I have everything it takes to be able to get a beautiful girlfriend and that's what should be happening.

I have never ever witnessed or even heard of a woman approaching a group of males, younger than her, and telling a dude she just met that kind of stuff

unless you and all your friends walked into half naked GQ looks and wicked bodies.

Most women look, maybe try to get your attention, But Approach a whole group of guys? and tell you how amazing you are?

Poll the audience to see how likely that is

November 15, 2015

I have never ever witnessed or even heard of a woman approaching a group of males, younger than her, and telling a dude she just met that kind of stuff

unless you and all your friends walked into half naked GQ looks and wicked bodies.

Most women look, maybe try to get your attention, But Approach a whole group of guys? and tell you how amazing you are?

Poll the audience to see how likely that is

older women do that kind of stuff, it's happened to me before

November 15, 2015

I should be dating somebody who looks like this - https://scontent-ord1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xaf1/v/t1.0-9/12208716_969653689773498_6895092430477582846_n.jpg?oh=6cd59d607dd23739f865cce3f502d899&oe=56B56D75

Oooh, really?

What about all that talk in your other posts about how you'd be happy with like a nice, average girl? If the girl in the picture is the type you're aiming for, it's no wonder you're having such a difficult time.

November 15, 2015

Oooh, really?

What about all that talk in your other posts about how you'd be happy with like a nice, average girl? If the girl in the picture is the type you're aiming for, it's no wonder you're having such a difficult time.

I saw a guy with a girl just like that last night at the bar

He looked very similar to me in terms of the overall presentation

November 15, 2015

I don't resent women. When I say that they have it incredibly easy in dating, I'm just being realistic. My sister growing up put in 1/10 the effort that I've put in dating for 100 times the success/results. That's just how the world is set up. Dating is just naturally set up to be 100 times easier for women

and her, I'm talking about women who are pretty attractive, in shape and fairly young. I'm sure there are overweight women/women in their 40s who don't find dating to be that easy but that's not the demographic I'm in so I can't compare myself to that. I can only compare myself to the female version of me.

and saying women get 100s of messages is resenting them? LOL I've seen several threads here with females saying that they just started online dating and they were completely overwhelmed with the massive horde of messages they get. That's why I am so hesitant to try online dating - real life dating is very difficult but online dating is almost like a caricature with how incredibly one sided it is

Not true. Massive generalisation. And that is why you resent women. Because you think we have it sooo easy while you have to work sooo hard. Maybe your sister had 100 times more luck than you but it doesnt mean women have 100 times more luck than men. I have 4 brothers. They are more successful in dating than i am. 2 of them are engaged. Im single. And im not an overweight 40something. And a hundred messages means nothing. Half of those from guys living in another country, a few decent ones who i actually respond to either never invite me out or they do but just want a shag. So i go back online and carry on trying. And again, only a few of those prospects actually work out. And i do message guys too. ( not models or gym kings or rich ones) and i get ignored too sometimes. Look around on these threads: look at all the girls who are struggling with their love life..mixed messages, double standards, cheaters, guys who ghost..etc. does it give you the impression we have it easy? Everyone has it hard. Women and men too! For different resasons. Dating is a minefield, we all get hurt. We dont have it 100 times easier than you.

Im not responding to any of your posts anymore. Your attitude is awful.

November 15, 2015

Not true. Massive generalisation. And that is why you resent women. Because you think we have it sooo easy while you have to work sooo hard. Maybe your sister had 100 times more luck than you but it doesnt mean women have 100 times more luck than men. I have 4 brothers. They are more successful in dating than i am. 2 of them are engaged. Im single. And im not an overweight 40something. And a hundred messages means nothing. Half of those from guys living in another country, a few decent ones who i actually respond to either never invite me out or they do but just want a shag. So i go back online and carry on trying. And again, only a few of those prospects actually work out. And i do message guys too. ( not models or gym kings or rich ones) and i get ignored too sometimes. Look around on these threads: look at all the girls who are struggling with their love life..mixed messages, double standards, cheaters, guys who ghost..etc. does it give you the impression we have it easy? Everyone has it hard. Women and men too! For different resasons. Dating is a minefield, we all get hurt. We dont have it 100 times easier than you.
Im not responding to any of your posts anymore. Your attitude is awful.

women find it 100 times easier (the good looking ones, I can't compare myself to women who are 20 years older than me or significantly overweight) to find dates and people who are interested in them.

I never said they find it easy to find a perfect long lasting relationship. You're putting words in my mouth. Even celebrities who have hordes of loving fans have plenty of relationship problems. It's certainly not a perfect science

With that being said, I've worked sales jobs where customers came to me and I've worked sales jobs where I had to go find the customers. There are no words to describe how much easier it is when the customers come to you. Same thing is true for women in dating. Most of you ladies here who complain that you can't find a great man to date would be horrified if you lived in the male perspective where you have to approach random ass strangers all the time, get rejected 95% of the time for a hope that one of them will actually like you. All you do is sit back and pick between all the men who are coming after you. There is nothing difficult in that.

November 15, 2015

Well to be fair, that's kind of your fault. I'm personally going to retire at 45 because I've set myself up so well financially

That's no opportunity. Nothing valuable can come from it except for some meaningless sex with somebody I wasn't really attracted to

I should be dating somebody who looks like this - https://scontent-ord1-1.xx.fbcdn.net/hphotos-xaf1/v/t1.0-9/12208716_969653689773498_6895092430477582846_n.jpg?oh=6cd59d607dd23739f865cce3f502d899&oe=56B56D75

Hmmm ...why do you feel you "should" be dating a girl that looks like this? Sounds like you feel entitled.

Many of us here have seen a pic of you ... It's interesting the gal you referenced in your thread starting post said you are "beautiful" and later you said someone referenced your lips as "pretty" ... alrighty then ... I'm going to be blunt but honest here ... Maybe woman find you more effeminate looking. I for one think you are good looking and have nice features ... But you are effeminate looking in a few of the pics you posted on this forum (under a different moniker) ... Especially your eyebrows which are overdone and exacerbate the situation. I don't think looking "ethnic" is holding you back ... Possibly it's confidence and others have made some poignant observations re: your personally ...these could be holding you back as well. Maybe look into how you can change your look a little.

November 15, 2015

Hmmm ...why do you feel you "should" be dating a girl that looks like this? Sounds like you feel entitled.

Many of us here have seen a pic of you ... It's interesting the gal you referenced in your thread starting post said you are "beautiful" and later you said someone referenced your lips as "pretty" ... alrighty then ... I'm going to be blunt but honest here ... Maybe woman find you more effeminate looking. I for one think you are good looking and have nice features ... But you are effeminate looking in a few of the pics you posted on this forum (under a different moniker) ... Especially your eyebrows which are overdone and exacerbate the situation. I don't think looking "ethnic" is holding you back ... Possibly it's confidence and others have made some poignant observations re: your personally ...these could be holding you back as well. Maybe look into how you can change your look a little.

It's funny, some women online have said that my eyebrows are still too thick and I should get them waxed even more. If I don't get them done, it looks horrible

anyways, your point about confidence/personality is 100% accurate. That's been the whole point of the thread.

November 15, 2015

Hmmm ...why do you feel you "should" be dating a girl that looks like this? Sounds like you feel entitled.

Many of us here have seen a pic of you ... It's interesting the gal you referenced in your thread starting post said you are "beautiful" and later you said someone referenced your lips as "pretty" ... alrighty then ... I'm going to be blunt but honest here ... Maybe woman find you more effeminate looking. I for one think you are good looking and have nice features ... But you are effeminate looking in a few of the pics you posted on this forum (under a different moniker) ... Especially your eyebrows which are overdone and exacerbate the situation. I don't think looking "ethnic" is holding you back ... Possibly it's confidence and others have made some poignant observations re: your personally ...these could be holding you back as well. Maybe look into how you can change your look a little.

Ohhhhh, I never saw a face picture (lady brows are no good!!). Just a body with head chopped off. Yes OP acts entitled and needs to get a sense of humor. His superiority complex is beyond. I think his quote is tony robbins (attitude determines altitude) or at least something of the like. If you go back to those same teachings if it is tony robbins: he would say if you are not getting the results you want, you need to keep adjusting yourself and your approach until you do. Confidence if you've discovered it would be a great help but even within the body of your epiphany thread you still have a bad attitude about women and what you "deserve". Faux-confidence paired with an attitude like you have in the past and at the moment is not going to help you. Neither is thinking you are better (and smarter!) than everyone else.

November 15, 2015

young women don't work that way. Generally speaking, the male has to do absolutely everything as she's being courted by 5320582058205820822 different men

Anyways, I agree in some ways but disagree with other ways with what you're saying. Yes you can feel more comfortable around certain people but you can ooze confidence and charisma around everybody with a strongly trained mind.

Statistically speaking, most of those men would be aliens. She's probably frustrated with that, lol.

November 15, 2015

Neither is thinking you are better (and smarter!) than everyone else.

and here, I'm not saying I'm perfect. There are men out there who are a very good all around package, better than me. My point is that I'm a pretty decent all around package and I do deserve somebody I'm attracted to

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November 16, 2015

Statistically speaking, most of those men would be aliens. She's probably frustrated with that, lol.

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