Lily1234 Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 I met this guy from an online dating website in July, and we texted each other 2 months before we first date. The first date was great, we talked a lot and I really like him. We ended up making out in his car, I know this might be too soon but it's hard to resist. He also told me that he really likes me. And last week he slept over in my home, which is our third date but we didn't have sex. He said he will always respect me and doesn't have problem waiting. All the three dates we had were in the same mode, we went out for dinner or movie, and then ended up by making out in his car. Now it has been 4 months since we known each other, we only went out for date 3 times, and he seldom texts me when he is not around. About once or twice a week, and it's always text, never phone call. I told him that I want to talk more often, his response is that he may not able to get back to me in time since he is busy. I can feel he is a respectful person, and he is a little bit shy and introverted. I always felt happy when we hang out together. But it really starts to bothering me that we don't talk often when we cannot meet. Is he more interested in physical intimacy instead of mental intimacy? Shall I stop seeing him if I only want serious relationship?
TaraMaiden2 Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 What is 'making out' if not 'having sex'...? Sounds like a flaky, casual insubstantial situation. Really, you're not dating. You're just providing company for one another until something more significant comes along. This sounds totally half-hearted and seems to lack any substantial effort on either your part or his to make this a serious relationship. If you want more, say it. if he won't play, then ditch and roll on....
5tu88sy Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 What is 'making out' if not 'having sex'...? Sounds like a flaky, casual insubstantial situation. Really, you're not dating. You're just providing company for one another until something more significant comes along. This sounds totally half-hearted and seems to lack any substantial effort on either your part or his to make this a serious relationship. If you want more, say it. if he won't play, then ditch and roll on.... ^ Definitely this.
Author Lily1234 Posted November 15, 2015 Author Posted November 15, 2015 Recently I have a hard time to hold myself back, I want to talk to him everyday but I don't want to behave too clingy. Since he only texts me like once or twice a week, so I try to be the same frequency... Shall I just tell him that and text more often?
smackie9 Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 Talks to you for TWO MONTHS before even wanting to set up a date, went out only on 3 dates in two months, didn't get sex on third date, now he doesn't text much, says too busy to put in an effort.... He didn't get sex, he's moved on. He wasn't interested in a relationship with you. They don't contact you because they don't want to, not that they are busy.... I agree with the above poster, it's possible you failed in make a effort and didn't bring on your sexy, flirt and show real interest in him in those texts, send him sexy photos, invite him out on a date and spoil him, etc. TIP: never invite a man into your home that you are dating without the prospect of having sex with him. You are not ready to hop in the sack, don't bring him home or go to his place.
Author Lily1234 Posted November 15, 2015 Author Posted November 15, 2015 What is 'making out' if not 'having sex'...? Sounds like a flaky, casual insubstantial situation. Really, you're not dating. You're just providing company for one another until something more significant comes along. This sounds totally half-hearted and seems to lack any substantial effort on either your part or his to make this a serious relationship. If you want more, say it. if he won't play, then ditch and roll on.... But recently I have a hard time to hold myself back, I want to talk to him everyday but I don't want to behave too clingy. Since he only texts me like once or twice a week, so I try to be the same frequency... Shall I just tell him that and text more often?
TaraMaiden2 Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 Recently I have a hard time to hold myself back, I want to talk to him everyday but I don't want to behave too clingy. When you consider how sporadic, uninvolved and superficial your 'dates' so far have been, I'd hardly label it 'clingy'! Your 'holding back' has proved to be the undoing. Sometimes, you need to state your case. As Smackie9 pointed out: You didn't behave in any way like a GF. So it's hardly surprising he appears to have no interest... Since he only texts me like once or twice a week, so I try to be the same frequency... Shall I just tell him that and text more often? No, it's clear from his actions how he feels about this scenario. I'd fall off his radar and move on. You think he doesn't see other women? You think he spends the entire time away from you, celibate and single? Think again.... You drop him and move on, and it will barely make a ripple on his pond.
Recommended Posts