Confused Teenager Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 I'm a senior in high school. I posted here before, but forgot my old account pw. I've liked this guy named "Ben" on and off for the 3 years. We are now good friends. At one point I fell for his best friend "John" and we dated for about half a year before breaking up. Since then, Ben and I have become really good friends. We're really comfortable with each other (to the point where once, when he teasingly took off my shoe, I asked him if my feet smell). Recently, I joked about something, which led me to say sarcastically say that I'd be there for Ben if he ever needed support. He replied with "who knows I might need your support soon enough." Of course, I then asked him what he meant by that. He refused to tell me, saying that I'll know in good time. I asked him if it was something bad and he said that it could potentially be bad depending on the outcome. I kept badgering him and he replied with "I'm sorry I can't do this right now" and that it's not that he can't say it, but he's just waiting for a good time. Could it possibly be that he might also have feelings for me and is waiting to confess? Or am I being delusional and just being too wishful and it's about something else entirely? Even if he somehow does like me, I also find it hard to believe that he'd tell me he has feelings for me since I dated his best friend 1.5 years ago. I don't even know...I got enough out of him to rule out anything super serious like sickness/moving/being gay and stuff like that. Hints he gave me -potentially bad depending on the outcome -not that he can't say it now, but he's waiting for a good time -"i'm sorry but i can't do this right now" -"idk maybe it'll be clear later" -"maybe it's just something I will feel" -"cuz I ain't ready. it's kinda like procrastination. I will do it eventually but I'm just pushing it off until the end" I don't want to ask him anymore in case I annoy him, so those are the only clues I have.
Glitters Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 Maybe he wants to experiment with you? Sexually ?At this age, boys want to , pretty common. I would advice you to be careful and not get used up
Author Confused Teenager Posted November 15, 2015 Author Posted November 15, 2015 Maybe he wants to experiment with you? Sexually ?At this age, boys want to , pretty common. I would advice you to be careful and not get used up I don't think so. He's never had a gf so he's pretty inexperienced when it comes to that kind of stuff. I'm pretty sure he hasn't even had his first kiss yet. I don't think he'd be gutsy enough to directly ask me to do sexual stuff with him.
smackie9 Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 He's been in love with you since you both started hanging out. He has been on the side lines watching, because he has no confidence in himself. Yes he does want to confess but is sooooo afraid of being rejected and losing you. It has gotten to the point that he can't keep silent about it anymore. He keeps hinting hoping you will figure it out, and you will confess to him you feel the same way...that is his deepest wish. How do you feel about him?? Do you wish this can turn romantic?
JADIE Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 Could it possibly be that he might also have feelings for me and is waiting to confess? Or am I being delusional and just being too wishful and it's about something else entirely? Even if he somehow does like me, I also find it hard to believe that he'd tell me he has feelings for me since I dated his best friend 1.5 years ago. Don't get too excited yet...I had a great guy friend my senior year in HS do this same thing...Good thing I wasn't romantically very interested in him, cuz the big reveal ended up being that he was converting to Mormon faith. I was like, "And...?" I hope yours comes up with something better...
Author Confused Teenager Posted November 16, 2015 Author Posted November 16, 2015 (edited) How do you feel about him?? Do you wish this can turn romantic? Honestly I don't know. I broke up with my last bf because he started falling for some other girl. I'm scared that it will happen again. And as much as I don't like my ex, I don't want to potentially affect Ben's relationship with his best friend. It's also senior year, and there's a high chance that if we do date later down the road it'll get complicated when we go to different colleges. Ben is very precious to me, and I don't ever want to lose him as a friend if we were ever to hypothetically break up. I used to like him before I ever dated "John," but he was interested in some other girl at the time. Because of that rejection, whenever I began to have feelings for him I've always shut them down, so now I'm just feeling very confused. Good thing I wasn't romantically very interested in him, cuz the big reveal ended up being that he was converting to Mormon faith. I was like, "And...?" OMG that's hilarious. Edited November 16, 2015 by Confused Teenager
smackie9 Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 Well if he feels you are worth it, he isn't going to let the distance get in the way. And Ben's relationship with his friend is none of your worry, it's all on him.
Author Confused Teenager Posted November 17, 2015 Author Posted November 17, 2015 I don't even know anymore. For the past two days he hasn't initiated any fb chats with me. I initiated a chat today (normally it's about 50/50) and it didn't last very long. Normally I'd be okay with this if it was someone else, but he and I rarely ever miss a day talking to each other...I can't help but wonder if it's because of the secret he is hiding from me or if it's just a coincidence. It's driving me crazy because I don't even know for sure what exactly he is hiding; I'm just jumping to conclusions that it might be about him liking me. In person today he was pretty much the same as far as I could tell. Can anyone else provide some insight to this?
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