Laci1975 Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 Hi I was with this man for two years. So in love with him. He broke up with me in July . We did not speak until September 16 when my 1 and 1/2 year old grandson was ammited into the picu for severe brain trauma and put in induced coma. The next day he text me and asked how he was. I told him. It went from there. He's texting good morning text every single day. We would be texting each other ALL DAY LONG until like 2/3 am. He invited me and my son and oldest grandson out to his place one night but I couldn't make it. He was texting me that night telling me how it was so hard getting me off his mind. And how can he move on knowing what he already had and I he doesn't understand how I'm still talking to him I should hate him. Wanting to come to my place and getting upset thinking my ex was here when he wasn't. During all this I am now raising both my grand babies now which has put a lot of pressure on Me. Considering my youngest now has to have someone with him 24/7 so cys doesn't want me working or they will have to place him somewhere else he's now on seizure meds, two shots a day of lovenex for blood clots. Plus physical therapy, occupational therapy, hematologist, neurologist, just so much. He came here one night to stay. Well you know what that lead to. Well all of a sudden one day he changes. I'm not hearing from him at all. He contacts my crazy ex he tells him all these lies. Which I nipped that in the bud quickly proved to him my ex was a lier , he apologized for believing him.. but still cold shoulders me. Then he tells me he was just trying to be a friend and he's sorry if I took it the wrong way.. Now I made it perfectly clear how I felt about him. I don't sleep with ppl. Unless there is something there. He knows that about me. How should I take all this?
Gloria25 Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 (edited) Wow, I'm sorry to hear about this... If I'm correct, this jerk started chatting you up and when it lead to a nite of sex, he disappears again? One of two things happened here and neither are good... 1- He's a seriously sick creep who used the problem with your grandson's hospitalization to chat you up so he could get laid. Or, 2- He reached out to you with sincere intentions of condolences, which peaked his hornies (which he mistaked for a revived interest in you) and after sex happened, he woke up. Sorry. I agree with you about not having sex with someone until you know FOR SURE that something's there. Cuz, I've heard that before sex, a man does not have clarity/control...after sex, women seem to bond and the man has clarity as to how he actually feels/felt about you. That's why it's important that you know for sure where you stand with a guy before sex happens...to weed out the players and to make sure he's really into "you". Sorry, again, I'm so sorry... BTW, if indeed scenario #2 is what took place, I still think he's a jerk cuz even "if" he had no bad intent and sleeping with you just happened, he should call you up and apologize for letting his body take over his mind. THAT's what a gentleman/real friend would do. And, if he's too scared to tell you in person, he should send you flowers, a card and/or a gift card for a spa day apologizing and wishing you strength and prayers for what's going on with you and your grandbabies... Edited November 15, 2015 by Gloria25
Author Laci1975 Posted November 15, 2015 Author Posted November 15, 2015 It wasn't right after sex. It was a week after. But all in all it was after that. I really think it's because have my grandkids now. I can't just go somewhere like I use to be able to. I can't work like I use to because I have to be with Wes. Nit forever, but until he is cleared by the drs. To be able to go to daycare or a babysitter and with the situation cys has to approve of the babysitter and daycare. Which I think is great anyway. It hurts a lot. He just goes on with his daily life proud of himself like he did nothing wrong. All I said to him was MAN UP tell me the truth quit the " I was just being a friend" bull crap. Because I have many male friends. Who doesn't do what he did. They seriously try to be just a friend. Not take advantage of my feelings. Hurting me over and over. Especially right now. I don't need toI be made to feel this way.
Author Laci1975 Posted December 1, 2015 Author Posted December 1, 2015 1. Ya know the thong that really bothers me the most about all that has happened. I stood behin my step daughter and stepson. Had their backs and not yours. When we were together. Believed them and not you. Let them be little u and trash talk you. Pretty much make our lives hell. And I let it happen. Why didn't I listen to the people that did care about me. My ex set out to destroy anything I had. And wanted to have. ~ 2.Any way I owe you a sinsear apology for putting u through hell. I was way out of line texting my ex talking to her. Lieing about doing that to you. And letting her destroy ur reputation, dignity, and most importantly ur beauty inside. She has never competed with ur external beauty or the person I met. She has hurt ur self esteem and made u out to be someone ur not! I as ur man at that time was a piece of ****. To let any of that go on. I'm sorry lachana for all the pain and mental abuse Logan and u endured while trying to be my women. 3.Well for what it's worth I think more highly of u than I say. U are truly an amazing mom, gamdma, and good to ur man. Jeff and teddi both sunk deep in my head and had me thinking u were someone u arnt. We had some really good times together. And some reallly bad times. But days go on. And I'm slowly forgetting all the bad times. So with that said. I won't look down on u for whatever u do. He was bringing up memories and stuff. How he'd get jealous of the dude who came and picked me up for work everyday. 4.Ur an amazing woman laci. Don't let anyone take u away from who u are. Not me not jeff not anyone. I admire u. I know I never said that. But u do. Probably willl never in my life ever meet a woman like u. U should smile at knowing that is true. That is gospel. And u will go far in life. U may not see that now. But u willl. ~Big Al~
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