Robot_heart Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 My ex is the one who ended the relationship with me. He was very jealous and insecure and we had problems the entire time because of this. It was only a one year relationship but it was very intense. He stayed at my house like he lived with me but he still had his own place, he was just never there. So we did share all of our time with one another and I know it is hard for people to adjust to change. Two days after our fight and break up I seen him with another girl... So it was clear to me that there was some guilty conscious thing going on becayse two days is awfully quick to be with another girl. He had to have been talking to this girl prior to our breakup. It has been a month since then and I have blocked him on every social media site and also his phone number. He still finds ways to make contact with me. He still spies on me and has created new accounts that are not blocked so that he can spy on things that I do online. Then he will email me and say stuff like "I'm liking guys pictures on instagram and what was I talking about on Facebook? How can I do this to him?" Stuff like that. I've had to go out of my way to make things private that I wouldn't have had to before and I've had to delete people because I'm not sure if they are a real Facebook friend or him with a fake account. Some of my accounts are for the public because they are for my photography. I feel like I shouldn't have to hide like this... It makes me sick that he even still looks at my stuff. Also his messages make no sense. They are irrational thoughts all over the map... He loves me, he hates, he never trusted me. He asked me to tell him I never loved him because how could I if I was liking other guys pics and what not. Just insane blabber. It goes away for no more than 3 days. After about 3 days he will find a way to contact me. He has never asked for me back, says that he will never love me or trust me again... So why is he still contacting me!? I'm going to be honest I'm not always able to control my anger as I do respond occasionally. I often have even tried to reason with him and explain how crazy he is being and that we both need no contact so we can heal and he agrees but then within a few days he's going off again... Today he blew up so bad on me saying the meanest things. I was in tears for hours after. I'm trying to get my life back in order and I don't need this drama. If someone doesn't want to be with you why would they continue to contact you like a crazy person? I always thought it was the other way around... If you want your ex back then you struggle to not contact them... This is the opposite and it's making me start to loose it... I miss him even after all the crazy nonsense because I shared a life with this guy for the past year but I desperately want to move on because our relationship was toxic! It's hard when he wont leave me alone... I guess what I'm asking is should I just ignore it until it goes away? I know he will stop eventually... It seems like he is grieving bad. Oh and a little side note, during this past month we have been broken up several of my friends have seen him out on dates with a girl. I'm assuming it's the same girl that he was with right after we broke up... That makes all of this even more confusing to me because he's dating... Why on earth would he even care anymore what I do? Anyway I don't know if I'm asking a question or just venting but I've had a really bad day and couldn't stop crying. I just want to move on.
dumbass2 Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 You should be able to block his text on your phone and you wont see them. You might be able to block on the phone calls, but those you can also just ignore and don't have to see anything. It just sounds like he's selfish and doesn't want you to move on. I'm sure once you start ignoring him that he'll go way, but try to block him. Don't tell him you're doing it either. Silence is the best answer. He'll get bored if he's not getting you to respond. 1
sandylee1 Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 Tell him to leave you alone and that any further contact will result in you filing a police report for harassment. He wants you to wallow on pity and be crying over him. Because you aren't..his ego is dented. He wanted to see you posting stuff like 'my life is crap..I'm so sad..my true love is gone' That would have made him happy. Then he could tell people how into him you were. He's very silly and immature. Please send that one message to him and then never respond again. He should consider it a warning. I suggest you actually call the police and see what action you can take if he persists. Keep the emails for evidence. 1
Author Robot_heart Posted November 15, 2015 Author Posted November 15, 2015 Tell him to leave you alone and that any further contact will result in you filing a police report for harassment. He wants you to wallow on pity and be crying over him. Because you aren't..his ego is dented. He wanted to see you posting stuff like 'my life is crap..I'm so sad..my true love is gone' That would have made him happy. Then he could tell people how into him you were. He's very silly and immature. Please send that one message to him and then never respond again. He should consider it a warning. I suggest you actually call the police and see what action you can take if he persists. Keep the emails for evidence. I fully agree that was what I was thinking tonight is if I get one more message I will threaten to go to the police for some kind of stalking restraining order. I have blocked him in many ways he will create new accounts to get at me. It needs to end.
Marc878 Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 Send him a message and ask him if he knows what a restraint order is? 1
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