Ohman007 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Hello Everyone, wasn't sure what section to post this thread in.... I am in need of some breakup advice. I broke up with my SO of 6 months a few weeks ago, and have been really torn about it. For a little history of us, we started off dating with the knowledge that I would be leaving university after a few months of when we met, and neither of us wanted to do LD. As time went on, feelings grew and we decided to try it. I was very happy with this decision, and embraced the LD relationship. As a few months of the LD went by, I for some reason started doubting whether or not I really loved this girl. I pretty much just psyched myself out, and broke up with her out of the blue. I had this weird feeling in my gut, and couldn't ignore it nor would it go away, so I ended this. Obviously, she was very upset, and we have finally been a few days of NC. Now I have been running around basically like a chicken with its head chopped off, trying to figure out what may have done wrong. One this that my ex said to me before the NC kinda made sense; she said that I lacked confidence in my love for her (obviously, based on what I wrote above), and that it's because I feel like love should be some grand, crazy emotion like it is in the movies. She said that we weren't there yet, that we were taking it slow, and that I didn't allow those feelings develop deeply. Now this may be true, I do have the tendency to overthink things, and so what she said may be true. My friend said that she just probably isn't the "One" for me (idk if I buy into the "one person" deal). I did enjoy the hell out of my time with her, and loved to do small little gestures of my affection for her. She was a girl gf in general, but there was some things that she did to me and to her previous BF's that really don't settle well; even now thinking about them I get a bit of a clenched stomach. Now, I am writing all of this because I have been feeling really ****ty about the whole situation since it went down. Some moments I'm sure that what I did was the correct choice, other moments I'm in tears when some little thing reminds me of her. It's very strange. Basically I'm wondering if I made a mistake, and if I should beg her forgiveness lol. But I absolutely want to make sure that if this is the case, that I'm 100% in this.... I REALLY don't want to be one of those guys that is gonna change their mind a few months later, and so I'm trying to get all perspectives. Any words of wisdom?
Robot_heart Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 I think you did her a favor... You had your doubts and didn't feel that strong romance feeling with her... If you go begging her back you are just being selfish because you don't like the change you just made. Live with it for a bit and you will probably realize you made the right choice for both you and her
Author Ohman007 Posted November 15, 2015 Author Posted November 15, 2015 Yeah, this is true. I don't want to hurt her more than I already have! I just really miss her, she's the person that I've talked to every day for the past 7 months. But I know that's selfish of me, I don't want to be the type to leave breadcrumbs. Man, this sucks!
Robot_heart Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 I think too that if you get back together with her after the comforting feeling of reuniting goes away you might later down the road meet a girl better suited for you and really crush this girl... I would keep that in mind. Being single you have the opportunity to meet someone you like more. Just tough it out.
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