Bullett Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 The background -- I was dating a woman for three months. Everything was really great and she seemed to be a keeper. Then things went sideways. She got upset that I turned down a last-minute invitation to do something and then didn't really want to talk about what had happened. Some other petty things happened and I ended up breaking it off. I wasn't happy about how things ended and thought I may have acted too quickly, so I contacted her to apologize and see if we could try again. She agreed and apologized for her role in the mess. It didn't last long, though, because she kept bringing up how the breakup bothered her. After going back and forth, I just stopped contacting her and she stopped contacting me. We didn't officially break up. After one month of no contact, she texted me to say I had been on her mind and she hoped I was well. I told her she had been on my mind and hoped she was well. She then apologized, "from the bottom of my heart" for putting me through agony. She said she had failed to understand me and said she was sorry. Then she asked for my forgiveness. I replied that I was sorry too and wasn't happy about my behavior. She then replied that she wasn't happy with hers either. It's been four days and I haven't heard anything more from her and I haven't contacted her. Here's my question -- Should I wait for her to contact me again (of course, she might not), or should I send her a brief "hi, how are you" type text? Before the problems everything was great. Really great. But we were only together three months, so there's a lot we don't know about each other. Maybe we're not good for each other, but I don't want to give up on her, at least not yet. If this can be fixed, that's what I want. If it can't, then I'll have to move on. But I really like this woman, and I know she felt the same way about me. One more thing -- I'm not entirely sure what she apologized for, or what it was about me she didn't understand. Do you think this was just an apology and she's moving on, or is this her way to test the waters to see if we still have a chance. Sorry for the long message, but thanks for any input!
lolablue17 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 It doesn't matter what is she sorry about. What matter is that she made the last move by texting you. It means she wants to reconnect. Now it's your turn. If you want her back, text her and tell her that you offer to reconnect. clear and simple. If she regrets, she will tell you that. If you don't want her back, cut contact and dont waste your time.
sandylee1 Posted November 15, 2015 Posted November 15, 2015 If you want to give it another go..ask her out for a coffee. Or straight up ask if she'd like to give it another try. You'll have your answer one way or another.
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