whatwhit Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Hello everyone! So last night I went on a date from a guy on Match - he just moved from another state and has been in this city for 2 weeks. We met at a bar with a beautiful sky rooftop. I am not sure if he's just super shy - but I do feel like I was carrying the conversation. I'm not sure if northerns date differently than southerners but I felt like I was trying to get to know him without him asking questions about myself. He did grab my hand and we hugged a few times at the bar. I thought he was ending the date early at one point but he invited me back to his gorgeous downtown apartment where we had wine and watch new girl cuddled, which he fell asleep lol. I did ask him if he wanted to hang out Asian not sure if that was the right thing and he said yes, and asked if I wanted which I said I did. I guess my insecurity is that I feel like guys tend to act like they like girl even if they don't ... And so it's like how do you even know if theyre into you? Should I text him a hey had a great time text or just wait it out? No first kiss last night but yeah.
Versacehottie Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Too hard to tell. I would say about the text saying you had a good time. Yep you should do that, if you want to go out again. Unfortunately, there are things that have become standards which doesn't allow for the flexibility to just be yourself. I think, of course, it's nice to say you had a good time and look forward to the next. BUT now you must, you're obligated because that's a standard that everyone does---sooooooo if you don't he will think you're not interested or impolite. Anyway, reaching out to him to say thanks is a good way to keep the momentum going. You can say something else too-personal to the the two of you, your conversation. Just presume you are going to be in each other's lives and that a friendship or more was developed. And then you can add in the part of having had fun and thanks. I think sometimes if you JUST saying "I had fun and thank you", the implied is: "did you have fun, do you like me?" Throw him a confident curve ball and talk about something else primarily AND that you had fun. It's more organic, more natural, more confident. But yeah that text is EXPECTED so do it if you want to see him again. I don't think you can say how the rest of the date went. It didn't sound like a for sure hit or you'd know that. It definitely didn't sound bad. Time will tell
Ic1 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 talk about something else primarily AND that you had fun. It's more organic, more natural, more confident. But yeah that text is EXPECTED so do it if you want to see him again. Agreed. Text him for confidence, but I would make sure he grows the confidence to ask you out again. As for the conversation being carried by you, I bet that'll wash away as you get to know him more. His nervousness. 1
alphamale Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 your written English leaves much to be desired 1
Author whatwhit Posted November 14, 2015 Author Posted November 14, 2015 Autocorrect on the iPhone is a fan favorite. Jerk!
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