Dating Network Comparisons

[Ic1]

In this thread; thoughts on different dating websites. There's plenty different ones, and I've found trends with each one I've used. Positive and negative.

 

Didn't see any voting features to put up, but I'd be interested to hear what ones are preferred as well. Would help to note your region of experience as well. I'm sure different areas have different commons on different networks.

[Ic1]

My thoughts with my experience on the forested coast of New England have told me the only networks with adequate attention beyond high schoolers are POF, OkCupid, and Tinder.

 

POF has the most quantity, and I've met the most women from it. But the downside is it has a very broad range of intentions. Many second messages are of little more than a phone number. Along with their first message compliments and profile they've laid out their intentions. Perhaps it's just the volume?

 

OkCupid has many on it as well, and I like the profile structure where people are given things to write about instead of just "Profile:". Women are certainly more selective on response though! I get more messages from women first on POF as well.

 

Tinder does a great job starting conversation. It has a setup where people can only contact if they "like" each other, but if you do it essentially starts a conversation. Down side is it encourages quick left or right instead of actually reading a profile. I've heard many stories of it being a way to find the one night stand when alone at the bar scene on friday.

[Iceshowers]

I live in the Tampa area (Florida, USA) and I've only used 3 online websites recently.

 

Tinder: I have been using Tinder since May when my sister got me into it. I have met 2 guys from there, both are no longer in my life lol. I liked it because you can be selective, but the selection is mostly on how the person looks like. If you have a bad picture there, then you're swiped left lol. I liked it also because I was able to talk to these guys alot before I gave out my number and meeting up. After I broke up with the 2nd guy, I decided to go back on Tinder, and it's so different now. There's either less people using it in this area, or just not many guys I'm interested in knowing.

 

So I went to Ok Cupid. While I liked the set-up, I'm not having much luck there either. I get alot of messages from guys I wouldn't ever consider, and at times I get discourage with going back to this website.

 

Then I just started using POF yesterday. Maybe because I'm using it on my phone app, I don't like it much. I HATE how I get emails for every little thing, and I tried to disable that so many times lol. I do see more guys that I would like to get to know more, but nothing that has caught my interest.

 

I don't know if it's just that I"m not ready to date seeing I just had broken up with last guy 2 weeks ago, or I'm being very selective because I don't want to go through what I went through. But I stopped using Tinder (mainly because I disabled facebook), and just go through POF sometimes. I barely touch OKC now.

[ShyLove]

I live in California. 31. I tried POF 2 years ago and will probably never try it again. In my experience it was home for the ignorant & perverts lol LOTS of sexual messages and it seemed no one knew how to have a conversation. Also most guys seemed like they were in between jobs.

 

I met the last guy I dated on Tinder. He was a very nice guy, treated me nothing but great, like a lady. Took me to a $200 dinner on the first date. We talked awhile before meeting so we pretty much already knew we had a connection. We had some misunderstandings and we still talk a little but it seems like either of us is too shy to ask the other what is going on (that's a whole other story) lol

 

I went to OkCupid a few weeks ago and was surprised the the quality on there outnumbered the weirdos lol When I first signed up I couldn't believe how gorgeous the guys were but then I realized I was browsing gay men hahaha (too bad lol)

 

But I went on dates with 3 amazing men with great careers all my exact age; one is an attorney, another is in corporate marketing and the other is in film/tv (common in my area, even though I really don't wish to date people that work in "the industry") he was still amazing. They all took me to fancy restaurants for the first date even though I said it wasn't necessary to do so to each of them (and yes I offered to chip in- and would have been happy to-but they all looked at me as if I was crazy when I offered)

 

They all keep in regular contact and each one has asked for a second date and let me know that they are interested in getting to know me more. They all have done everything right and they all said that they are really looking for something serious. I must say that I am pleasantly surprised...so far lol

 

A coworker who is in her late 40's met her second husband on OkCupid. I say if you're in California OkCupid is worth a shot.

[Ic1]

I went to OkCupid a few weeks ago and was surprised the the quality on there outnumbered the weirdos lol When I first signed up I couldn't believe how gorgeous the guys were but then I realized I was browsing gay men hahaha (too bad lol)

 

But I went on dates with 3 amazing men with great careers all my exact age; one is an attorney, another is in corporate marketing and the other is in film/tv (common in my area, even though I really don't wish to date people that work in "the industry") he was still amazing. They all took me to fancy restaurants for the first date even though I said it wasn't necessary to do so to each of them (and yes I offered to chip in- and would have been happy to-but they all looked at me as if I was crazy when I offered)

 

East coast OkCupid has higher quality on connections too. Must be a national trend.

[thecrucible]

I'm thinking of gravitating to a more serious paid site.

 

I use POF - most guys who message me on there are either non-serious prospects who I just have nothing in common with. I've been on a few good dates on there but they haven't gone further than 2-3 dates.

 

OKCupid is so strong on fetish people and activist types. I'm not into those types at all. There are very few I have much in common with.

 

To me I'm not having difficulty finding someone I find attractive, it's finding someone I want to share a lot more in common with in order to try a proper romantic relationship, the same issue I have in real life.

[Ic1]

I'm thinking of gravitating to a more serious paid site.

 

I use POF - most guys who message me on there are either non-serious prospects who I just have nothing in common with. I've been on a few good dates on there but they haven't gone further than 2-3 dates.

 

OKCupid is so strong on fetish people and activist types. I'm not into those types at all. There are very few I have much in common with.

 

To me I'm not having difficulty finding someone I find attractive, it's finding someone I want to share a lot more in common with in order to try a proper romantic relationship, the same issue I have in real life.

 

I tried Zoosk once, and the people who actually had an account where they could respond (paid account), were typically on a more mature level. As for Match, hardly anyone existed on it here in the North East.

[SwordofFlame]

In NYC. Most people use Tinder. I use that and OKC. I have better matches on OKC though. I've noticed there are fewer users on it compared to when I first started using it about 3 years ago.