opalant Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I've been single for 6 months now and now I'm ready to meet someone new but I'm scared of dates. I've spoken to quite a few guys since the break up. One of me and my guy friends also really like each other and kissed a couple of weeks ago but because he's moved 2 hours away for uni we've decided not to chance it incase it ruins our friendship. I've been talking to a 21 year old guy who lives near me for a week or so and he seems really nice and genuine, he's asked me out for a drink which is my ideal date because I hate eating in front of people I don't know aha. And I've said I'll go but every time it gets close to the date I always end up letting them down and then obviously they don't speak to me again because they think I'm not interested. I know it's just nerves but I'm so shy and awkward, and worried about awkward silences and it just gets me so worked up. I want to be able to go out on dates, I'm ready to move on and meet someone new but I can't do that if even the thought literally petrifies me. Any advice on how to stop being so nervous?
oberkeat Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I'm going to give you some tough love here. Your behavior is flaky. A woman who's behavior is unreliable and inconsistent when it comes to her dating interactions wit men is flaky. You know what you need to do. If you truly ever want a bf, you need to stop this behavior. Or stop talking to guys so they can quit wasting their time.My mother has an old saying: "either pee or get off the toilet!" 1
Redfisher Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Truth is always the best policy, So just tell this dude you are nervous and may act awkward.... Screw the rules that some single person living in a condo in New York wrote online....The guy will understand and think you like him so much it makes you nervous..Cute as hell... 1
oberkeat Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Sometimes the things that are best for us are also the things that make us the most nervous. Going to a new gym for the first time. Approaching someone you don't know. Meeting someone for a date. It makes you nervous because you are really put yourself out there and taking a risk. You just have to take a deep breath and dive in. That goes not just for dating but for life in general. 2
Ic1 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 "Love is friendship on fire." Going on a date should be like spending time with a friend. Chill, chat, and see what happens. 1
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