should i keep dating him??? I am not sure....

[rbrt140]

I met a guy about 4 months ago and he turned out to be really great and amazing.... he treats me like a lady which noone ever has before.. hes funny and even though hes older than me he acts like a kid around me and its a very fun relationship, I love spending time with him and we can literally talk for hours. So we became boyfriend and girlfriend after only 1 month dating and things got a little serious very soon. Our 3 months officially together were great but I was not sure if I liked him enough to keep going... I feel like he likes me more than I like him.. and that one day he is going to say i love you and I wont say it back... and that eventually I will break up with him and i dont want to hurt him worse later on... SO i told him we should break up...

 

We didnt talk for about two days and I missed him alot! then he called me to talk and he said... that its ok and normal that I didnt really know how much i really liked him... weve only known each other for about 4 months and it takes longer to know what this is... but that as long as we are making each other happy... we have a good time and have fun together.. not to overthink about the future... and that he himself is also unsure... that he really likes me and I make him happy.. so just like its too early to tell if this is "love" it is also early to tell if not gonna work....

 

I am kind of confused.... advice is appreciated.

 

thanks!

[Redfisher]

You are over thinking it... You talked yourself out of maybe a great thing. Why not just slow down and keep dating him and see how you feel? Seems like a nice guy.

[mystikmind2005]

What always helps me with tricky decisions is to think about what decision i would make if i was to remove fear from the equation.

[angel.eyes]

You jumped way ahead of yourself instead of just letting things unfold naturally.

 

The sad thing is, you had a really great guy who was emotionally invested in you. When you break up with someone, tell him that you don't reciprocate his feelings, etc., he'll pull back investing his heart in the relationship and you. It won't be noticeable initially, but it will come back to bite you when the relationship resumes.

 

You say this is the first time you've been treated well in a relationship. Why are you actively sabotaging things when someone finally treats you well and the relationship works? Do some serious self-reflection.

Edited November 14, 2015 by angel.eyes