moonface Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I went out with a girl on Monday. Had a great time - date lasted about 3 hours. Then I texted her the same night and suggested that I will call her to arrange a 2nd date (and told her that I had fun). No reply. On Wednesday, I dropped her a line wishing her fun to the birthday party that she was excited about during the date (told me). No reply but I wasn't expecting one anyways. Should I give her an actual call over the weekend to try to arrange a 2nd date on the phone or should I wait for her to get back to me on the texts. Would it come off needy if I call her after two unanswered texts? I am 28, she is 27.
Rydo Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Yes, you would come off needy. Just move on to the next one if you value your self respect.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Don't call her. Two unanswered texts is all you need to know, in my opinion. 1
angel.eyes Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I wouldn't call. She hasn't responded to two texts. If she contacts you and provides a reasonable explanation for her silence, then you might consider arranging a second date. Other than that, I would look elsewhere.
Author moonface Posted November 14, 2015 Author Posted November 14, 2015 Thank you, I guess you are right. Just one more question - do girls "test" guys this way to see if they are presistent? I was out of the dating game for a long while - just getting back in haha.
angel.eyes Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Sorry, silence=no. If she's ignoring your texts, she's not interested.
hippychick3 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Thank you, I guess you are right. Just one more question - do girls "test" guys this way to see if they are presistent? I was out of the dating game for a long while - just getting back in haha. No, they don't. Sorry.
Redfisher Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 No, they don't. Sorry. Straight and to the point...Love it.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Thank you, I guess you are right. Just one more question - do girls "test" guys this way to see if they are presistent? I was out of the dating game for a long while - just getting back in haha. I've never done so, and I'm assuming most other mature women haven't either.
Ic1 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Thank you, I guess you are right. Just one more question - do girls "test" guys this way to see if they are presistent? I was out of the dating game for a long while - just getting back in haha. I think they do it passively without knowing. It's not attractive to appear 'needy', and what they can't get easily is attractive. You sent a text the same night, trying to set up another time out ASAP. Easy for her to have you. Try sending message next day, remembering something and/or complimenting her about something she told from the date. Ex: I had a good time last night. Btw, It wasn't just your dress that made me smile. Kudos on the job offering!" After her response and maybe a short thread of texting chat, try to make plans. This way she had to show you she had interest before you made plans. You wouldn't be as easy to get as just sending a message saying: "Let's go out again!" 1
Author moonface Posted November 14, 2015 Author Posted November 14, 2015 I think they do it passively without knowing. It's not attractive to appear 'needy', and what they can't get easily is attractive. You sent a text the same night, trying to set up another time out ASAP. Easy for her to have you. Try sending message next day, remembering something and/or complimenting her about something she told from the date. Ex: I had a good time last night. Btw, It wasn't just your dress that made me smile. Kudos on the job offering!" After her response and maybe a short thread of texting chat, try to make plans. This way she had to show you she had interest before you made plans. You wouldn't be as easy to get as just sending a message saying: "Let's go out again!" I guess you are right. Well, it is done now in the current case - I guess, I messed this one up a little...
Versacehottie Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Thank you, I guess you are right. Just one more question - do girls "test" guys this way to see if they are presistent? I was out of the dating game for a long while - just getting back in haha. No:eek::eek::eek::eek:
Author moonface Posted November 14, 2015 Author Posted November 14, 2015 Do you think there is a way to turn it around at this stage?
xcupid Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 There's nothing to "turn around." Either she's interested or not. Call her if you want to but expect her to say "no." At least you won't be left guessing.
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