goodbyebluesky Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 basically me and this guy were in a serious relationship for a little over a year... we spend all our time together, he was always so so good to me. I mean he really did treat me like a princess.. but over the past few months we began to argue a lot over pointless things.. it came to the point where in this past October he said we should go on a break and work on ourselves so we can have a better relationship.. we went on our break which turned into a full break up because he said it wasn't fair to have me waiting around for him to decide if he wants to be in a relationship or not. we didn't speak for two weeks and then he ended up calling me telling me he misses me and loves me and really wants to see me and wants to make us work. this weekend we made plans to see each other, but today he told me he doesn't think we should anymore.. I asked why and he tells me how he hungout with a girl from work last night and they ended up doing things, aka having sex... I'm so hurt. I feel so betrayed, so broken.. he always told me that I need to trust him better and he would never do anything to hurt me.... well he did, he hurt me so bad.. I'm so depressed, I can't even eat... my parents took me and my best friend to dinner tonight and I could only take a few bites without feeling like I was going to throw up. my eyes hurt from crying. everytime the thought of him touching and kissing another girl crosses my mind I feel so weak and physically sick... when will this pain ever end?! and the worst of all is how much I still love him! I don't know how to get through this.. I can't believe this is real...
kxpxsc3 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Go NC. This guy is jerking you around and you deserve better than that. First he doesn't want a relationship, then he misses you, then he's with another chick. He sounds quite immature and it's clear he does not want anything serious. Block him from everything, spend a few days crying your eyes out and letting out all your sadness, then get angry and let it fuel your moving on. Eventually you will be just ok, and then things will start getting better and better, I promise But I can't stress enough how important going NC is. If you still let him contact you, or look at this social media or ANYTHING, you will not make the progress that you need to make aka moving on from him. Chin up!
ExpatInItaly Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Sorry you're in this situation, OP. What an awful feeling. As the above poster said, this guy was stringing you along and obviously isn't ready for anything serious. He wants to have fun and play the field. Let him do so without compromising your heart. Go complete No Contact and work on healing yourself. There will come a time when you will be glad he's not in your life.
Bradt Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I agree with the previous replies...go N/C, no spying on fb,delete his number,if anyone speak about him...stop them because you dont want to hear what he been up to.It is gona be hard but trust me you will get over this as long as you dont let him string you along...let him have his fun...you will be beter off at the end...i been tru it this year after a 7year rlshnshp. N/C is the best thing to help with healing...be storng love...remember you did not loose him...he lost you...
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