Ic1 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I've made quite a connection with a particular girl from OLD, and she's one with good intentions. (Seem to be rarity online). What's on my mind is where we are in life. I'm just 4 years older than her and we're both in our mid 20's. But she's only freshly moved out of her family house and still receiving support from many due to a complicated story I don't even know all of yet. My situation is living on my own for almost 10 years now, just got my degree and starting career. Thoughts on this gap in where we are in experience?
Buddhist Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Why are you even considering this right now? So what if she's just moved out and still receiving family support? Did you want her to move in with you in the next few weeks? You haven't even started dating her yet. You could probably have her as your girlfriend for years before you even needed to consider moving in together where such considerations might need to be taken into account. Four years difference is absolutely nothing at all, stop looking for roadblocks where there aren't any to be found. 1
Author Ic1 Posted November 14, 2015 Author Posted November 14, 2015 Why are you even considering this right now? So what if she's just moved out and still receiving family support? Did you want her to move in with you in the next few weeks? You haven't even started dating her yet. You could probably have her as your girlfriend for years before you even needed to consider moving in together where such considerations might need to be taken into account. Four years difference is absolutely nothing at all, stop looking for roadblocks where there aren't any to be found. I don't think you understand my concern. 4 years age difference is nothing, and the thought of living together never crossed my mind until you brought it up! I wouldn't consider it for a looooong time if we were together. We've seen each other a few times now and enjoy each other's company. I'm just worried about her defiantly being younger in experience of life.
Buddhist Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I don't think you understand my concern. We've seen each other a few times now and enjoy each other's company. I'm just worried about her defiantly being younger in experience of life. Yep you're right I don't understand your concern. The difference between say a 28yr old and a 24yr old (for example) is so neglible it's hardly an issue. So I don't really see what you are so concerned about. What has her living situation really got to do with it? It's not as if you are halfway up the career ladder and dating a college undergrad. While I'm sure you feel really mature and all, you're not really all that far ahead of her by the sounds of things. As someone used to dating people more than a decade younger the age gap you're talking about is no big deal.
Author Ic1 Posted November 14, 2015 Author Posted November 14, 2015 Example: We stopped at a Chipotle style restaurant to have something to eat, and our body language obviously showed we were togeather on a date. Not public making out, but a small group of 30 year olds gave us a hard time by pretending to do a survey and pop our bubble. She didn't realize their intentions, but I quickly embarrassed them by asking what research they were doing and talking in statistical and marketing terms (use to work in such). They quickly left, trying to leave smoothly still using the act. I had to explain what had happened around her afterwards. She's not stupid, just younger in life experience. It's nothing to do directly with where she's sleeping.
CalvinM Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Example: We stopped at a Chipotle style restaurant to have something to eat, and our body language obviously showed we were togeather on a date. Not public making out, but a small group of 30 year olds gave us a hard time by pretending to do a survey and pop our bubble. She didn't realize their intentions, but I quickly embarrassed them by asking what research they were doing and talking in statistical and marketing terms (use to work in such). They quickly left, trying to leave smoothly still using the act. I had to explain what had happened around her afterwards. She's not stupid, just younger in life experience. It's nothing to do directly with where she's sleeping. What's your point caller?
ExpatInItaly Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I'm with the others, I don't really understand your worry here. And I highly doubt these guys doing a "survey" picked up on a four-year age difference and decided to give you a hard time. It sounds like you're making an issue out of nothing at the moment.
kitty12345 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Find some other girl with much more experience ! Problem Solved. 1
Author Ic1 Posted November 14, 2015 Author Posted November 14, 2015 I'm with the others, I don't really understand your worry here. And I highly doubt these guys doing a "survey" picked up on a four-year age difference and decided to give you a hard time. It sounds like you're making an issue out of nothing at the moment. It's not the pranksters that made me bring up that scene. It was her lack of understanding the situation. But I think people not understanding my perspective is enough to say I don't have anything to concern about. My real concerns must be the fact that we're on the verge of an 'official' relationship, and I'm being a worry-wart.
Redfisher Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 It's not the pranksters that made me bring up that scene. It was her lack of understanding the situation. But I think people not understanding my perspective is enough to say I don't have anything to concern about. My real concerns must be the fact that we're on the verge of an 'official' relationship, and I'm being a worry-wart. Winner Winner Chicken dinner... 1
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