lookin ahead Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Ok, i am not sure if this is the right place to post this but anyhow, i was invited to a wedding next month and of course i have no one to go with me and it is out of town as well. I feel terrible as i really want to go and use that as an excuse to get dressed up and everything, i feel it will be nice after a while, but then again i would feel weird since im divorced and it might get a bit emotional for me and all and no date etc.. Anyway, i wish i had a date for the event, would you go to a wedding invite alone? I don't know what to do, maybe i should cancel.
CarrieT Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 A wedding - in my opinion - is not an excuse for a date/dress-up. It is to help another couple celebrate their love. I'm shocked that you would consider not going because it won't be fun FOR YOU when all your friends who are getting married want is to have you witness and acknowledge their union. It isn't like they would even know "your date" and are probably happy to not have to shell out money for you to socialize on their dime. Your rationale for not going is pretty self-centered... 1
FeelingFireworks Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I don't know how recent your divorce is or how emotionally hard it is to cope with but I can almost appreciate your thoughts. I know divorced people. It can be a very dark place for some, and a couple of them avoided social situations for a while. Now: Did you already RSVP as a yes? And also was this after your divorce? In that case, you ideally should go. Get dressed up and enjoy the day. Remember it's about celebrating the happy couple - make that your focus. Go alone (good way to be social, I'd certainly do it) or bring a male or female friend if you're allowed a guest - a plus 1 doesn't have to be a romantic interest. If you honestly don't think you can face a wedding, but agreed to attend, send a written apology - no need to give a huge explanation, maybe just cite 'personal circumstances'. Send a wedding gift and also reimburse the cost of your plate. It's the less ideal option, but if you're going to miss it, be as good about it as possible. I missed a wedding once because I had a bad chest infection...literally became ill 2days before it. I had a hard enough time apologising for that even though I was actually bed bound. It's a one-off event in their lives, plus they're expensive affairs so you can expect they are sensitive to cancellations, especially so close to the day. Having been married you should at least appreciate that. You have every power to make a good go of the day so take advantage of it. 1
Redfisher Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Go for it...Might meet the man of your dreams...
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