JustGettingBy Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 If you wait too long, you'll get to an age where people will assume there's something wrong with you for not having had a relationship. Also, the following list contains the names of women who like you, but you won't notice any of their crushes until years later. A star will be beside the names of the one's you'll regret not asking out.
ExpatInItaly Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Mine: Calm the eff down don't try to read his mind and wonder "what he really meant."
Iceshowers Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I would tell my younger self to go out and date more, so your heart understands pain and your mind understands closure. Not dating enough and letting just a handful of guys hurt you, made you so guarded, but you would still easily develop attraction/feelings for the one you like. And then when that was over, you'd hurt because you gave alot of effort, when you shouldn't have. You're too kind and compassionate, and you have to learn when someone deserves it, and when they don't. 1
Wewon Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 It sad, but a lot of the lessons that I learned and would tell myself all stem from putting women on a pedestal which made me refuse to see behavior for what it was. "Women and men aren't that different. If she says something mean, does something cruel, has a temper-tantrum or makes an over the top demand, make no mistake, she knows exactly what she's doing and why she's doing. Assuming that there must be a "good reason" will only prolong your frustration." "Flaking is a decision, expecting someone to show up on time or follow through is not the same as expecting them to be perfect" "Interested women make an effort and meet you halfway, they don't stand back and watch you flounder in trying to impress them." "If you're okay with how you act and treat people, and wouldn't be bothered if someone close to you is being treated that way, then you're good and have nothing to worry about." "If you wouldn't want to see someone close to you being treated that way you SO is treating you, move on and don't rationalize her behavior"
Zapbasket Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Always know in the back of your mind that it's all just practice ... If in any doubt, just ask, even if it feels like cold-calling ... Don't be intimidated by the prospect of competition but don't put up with being strung along ... Most importantly -- work out major emotional issues (in my case, "nice guy" stuff) while you're still single. You may think getting married just to get on with your life will wipe the slate clean and make up for all the previous lack of success, but it won't. Especially the bolded is GREAT advice.
Imported Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 What I'm doing now, I should have been doing all along.
kendahke Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 What dating advice would you give to your younger self now having gone through it the hard way ? Who you are is more than enough. If who you are/how you are isn't good enough for some man, set him adrift.
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