barbossa Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 What dating advice would you give to your younger self now having gone through it the hard way ? Mine: stay away from all attached girls. They just want your attention
lilmissjava Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Mine: No expectations, no disappointments. 2
sandylee1 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Take no nonsense and dump him if he at the first sign of any crap. 3
basil67 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Don't have close friends of the opposite sex when you're in a relationship - it always goes pear shaped. Don't think that because he has sex with you that he wants to date you. If a guy disappears temporarily, don't go crazy blowing up his phone. Instead, when he comes back into contact, tell him that you thought he'd moved on and that you're no longer available. (All learned the hard way) 1
mrldii Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 "Don't take it all so seriously...ain't none of us getting out, alive." Oh, wait...that's the life advice I'd give, not the dating advice. Hmmmm...on second thought, it still works. 1
Rydo Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 My advice would be... Keep doing what you are doing and enjoy yourself, lucky wee ****
oberkeat Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 "If she flakes once, don't give any second chances." "If she doesn't like you as much as you like her, don't waste your time; she's not the right woman for you." 1
DrReplyInRhymes Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I'd tell myself that most women judge you on your potential. Your failure to reach that potential will cause women to jump ship.
Myragal Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 What I have learned is what I would never tell my younger self It is unlikely that the relationship ( high school sweetheart, boyfriend in college, etc) is going to be 'forever' despite how we feel at the time. Hopefully the 'forever' relationship will come later in life in our 40's and beyond. Perhaps in our 70's. I wouldn't want to know this as I would not have been as good a partner. If a relationship isn't 'forever' we just can't invest as much of ourselves into it. It was wonderful picking out furniture, Christmas dinners with partners family, etc. Earlier in life. I (and everyone) believes it will last forever. Also, perhaps just me, but I could never have physical sex with a man who wasn't going to be the one and only: I'd feel I was betraying my future 'forever' partner. Bottom line, good to be naive about life and learn along the way.
MoreAmore Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I don't know. I'd be hesitant to change anything that led to just that where I am and who I am. If I were giving it to someone else, though, what I learned... Do not try so hard and hang on so hard to "work it out." Some relationships are meant to end and it's not a lack of character or dedication to end things at their time. You're delaying the inevitable and wasting years of your life. I didn't learn this the first or even the second time.
CalvinM Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Enjoy being single/free time more. There's so very little of it when you're in a relationship.
S_A Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Stay away from the Brazilian girl you will meet in 2010. 2
Shining One Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Don't be so patient.If she wants to be friends first, treat her like a friend.When a woman invites you over to watch a movie, bring condoms.Don't trust her words, trust her actions.Save your generosity for those who have earned it.
basil67 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 I'd tell myself that most women judge you on your potential. Your failure to reach that potential will cause women to jump ship. I haven't judged a guy on his potential, but I know that quite a number of women seem to. If only I could get through their heads that you have to figure out a guy on the here and now!
Zapbasket Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 1. Don't ever love anyone more than you love yourself. Therefore, be sure to love yourself, so that you can love the right person, when he comes along. 2. Always, always trust your instincts. 3
Buddhist Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Don't get overly serious about any relationship in your twenties. You're both just children playing at being adults. Nothing worthwhile is likely to come of it.
Siquijor Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Put more emphasis on a career than a relationship. Be patient and learn about the opposite sex before commiting/investing. Don't be fooled by beauty and looks. Respect yourself first and foremost and take no crap.
Redfisher Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Chocolate, Always have it in the house.... 2
GoodOnPaper Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Always know in the back of your mind that it's all just practice ... If in any doubt, just ask, even if it feels like cold-calling ... Don't be intimidated by the prospect of competition but don't put up with being strung along ... Most importantly -- work out major emotional issues (in my case, "nice guy" stuff) while you're still single. You may think getting married just to get on with your life will wipe the slate clean and make up for all the previous lack of success, but it won't. 1
BronzeAgeJaeger217 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 That life, reality is not fair at all, would have loved for Elliot Hulse to tell me that hypothesis in my teens and very early 20's, the stuff that I know now, or am learning now, wish I could be in the 18-22 age range again
bluefeather Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Hey, Remember that little girl from childhood who liked you..? I mean, really liked you? Go find her right now. You would both make a wonderful fairy tale if you got together. When you're much older, the two of you regret not being with each other. Seriously, the kind of woman you would dream about is real and it's her. But at this point in the timeline, it's too late. If you miss the chance like I did, keep doing what you're doing. Despite that one miss, you're on a great track. You will find love multiple times, and if it ever happens that one wants to leave you, let her go with your blessing. You fall in love so easily... Maybe even too easily. I know how much you care for someone when you're in a relationship, but I also know how hurt you would feel if you were "abandoned." But let me tell you something since I know how it goes with you: Do you know how long you ever go with being single? 1 or 2 months, tops. So don't sweat it. You feel heart-ache so painfully, yet it is so short lived. You're sexy as f-ck and you will continue to move on. Don't be afraid to make scary decisions. That's why they always look at you weird, and then later admire you. You don't see the world like they do. Love you always, Your future self 1
Ic1 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Don't compromise plans of career for women at that age, and women can be users.
Iceshowers Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Hey, Remember that little girl from childhood who liked you..? I mean, really liked you? Go find her right now. You would both make a wonderful fairy tale if you got together. When you're much older, the two of you regret not being with each other. Seriously, the kind of woman you would dream about is real and it's her. But at this point in the timeline, it's too late. If you miss the chance like I did, keep doing what you're doing. Despite that one miss, you're on a great track. You will find love multiple times, and if it ever happens that one wants to leave you, let her go with your blessing. You fall in love so easily... Maybe even too easily. I know how much you care for someone when you're in a relationship, but I also know how hurt you would feel if you were "abandoned." But let me tell you something since I know how it goes with you: Do you know how long you ever go with being single? 1 or 2 months, tops. So don't sweat it. You feel heart-ache so painfully, yet it is so short lived. You're sexy as f-ck and you will continue to move on. Don't be afraid to make scary decisions. That's why they always look at you weird, and then later admire you. You don't see the world like they do. Love you always, Your future self Wow, I thought I was reading a letter about myself! Minus the girl part & being single for only 1-2 months lol.
bluefeather Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Wow, I thought I was reading a letter about myself! Minus the girl part & being single for only 1-2 months lol. Hey maybe you were! Time and space can be complicated lol...
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