Wisecrack Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 It was her 21st so I sent a birthday text. Not too long, not too short but enough that it was nice. I do that to everyone and always get a reply. Normally she replies too but to date, nothing. We'd recently gone on a road trip together with friends where we'd gotten pretty close. She remain guarded but every now and then let her guard down; lots of physical'ness, cuddling, laughter and fun. Similar scenario's throughout were where I'd get sun-burnt, she'd notice and I said it'd be fine before she'd force me around to apply some on. Here's the thing. She'd previously LJBF me and I was fine with that. We both moved on, dated other people etc. My gut though felt like she kept showing signs she was interested in me and yes I did the same. But I always held back because of the previous mentioned. So what gives? Yeah I know, a birthday message is given without a thought of receiving but I've never had someone not reply back. Heck, even a generic 'you're a great friend thanks' would have sufficed and reaffirmed where we both stand. I am seeing her tonight (social gathering) though but I do not know how to act; friendly or treat her as an acquaintance?
oberkeat Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 It was her 21st so I sent a birthday text. Not too long, not too short but enough that it was nice. I do that to everyone and always get a reply. Normally she replies too but to date, nothing. We'd recently gone on a road trip together with friends where we'd gotten pretty close. She remain guarded but every now and then let her guard down; lots of physical'ness, cuddling, laughter and fun. Similar scenario's throughout were where I'd get sun-burnt, she'd notice and I said it'd be fine before she'd force me around to apply some on. Here's the thing. She'd previously LJBF me and I was fine with that. We both moved on, dated other people etc. My gut though felt like she kept showing signs she was interested in me and yes I did the same. But I always held back because of the previous mentioned. So what gives? Yeah I know, a birthday message is given without a thought of receiving but I've never had someone not reply back. Heck, even a generic 'you're a great friend thanks' would have sufficed and reaffirmed where we both stand. I am seeing her tonight (social gathering) though but I do not know how to act; friendly or treat her as an acquaintance? You need to act like you don't care, because honestly, you shouldn't. She's already said let's just be friends, so what does it matter? You need to refocus your energy on finding a girl who isn't lukewarm about you. I get the feeling you're still holding out hope that she'll change her mind about wanting a relationship with you. That's a waste of time.
kismetkismet Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 I'm confused.. who is this girl to you? Are you dating? is she an ex? is she just a friend that you have a crush on? What is LJBF? You should treat her as normal.. no response to a birthday message is not a huge deal. But neither is any of the other stuff that you wrote.. it sounds like you are just friends, but that you have a crush on her and are reading too much into things perhaps?
katiegrl Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 I'm confused.. who is this girl to you? Are you dating? is she an ex? is she just a friend that you have a crush on? What is LJBF? You should treat her as normal.. no response to a birthday message is not a huge deal. But neither is any of the other stuff that you wrote.. it sounds like you are just friends, but that you have a crush on her and are reading too much into things perhaps? LJBF = let's just be friends.
Author Wisecrack Posted November 13, 2015 Author Posted November 13, 2015 Yeah I am getting on with things and honesty I am fine. But I am just still curious as to why no reply when usually there is. I mean everyone even a previous ex's would reply to a happy birthday message I'd sent.
frus69 Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 Maybe she received a lot of messages so she forgot to reply to you. i don't see why it's so hard to understand 1
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