crazybestie101 Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 I have been crushing on this guy for more than 6 months, always thought there is slight interest on his side too. Fast forword few weeks ago i got courage and started initiating contact. I started off with how was his weekend and what did he do? He lied.. then i asked him what's his plans for halloween. He said he doesn't like dressing up and stuff but when i saw him tagged on of my friends photo and he was dressed. Like why would he lie to me for such minor things. There are many other things he said about his life which i hardly believed but i thought may be he is saying to impress me or something. This guy is super outgoing and when he is around me he is shy and quite.Also, he isn't letting our conversation go anywhere. He doesn't give me chance to ask me out. Yet he is always looking for me and ask me stupid question to get my attention, stares at me like he has never seen me before.All this only happens after i start talking to him. But i am honestly tired of initiating. Like what the hell, this isn't going anywhere..Today i saw him again, i didn't initiate anything, infact ignore him all way. I kinda miss him badly but i am tired of wasting my time. Also, i would never want to date someone who lies to me everytime even it is to impress me.. Should i take this as his "not interested"??
losangelena Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 Should i take this as his "not interested"?? Yep! Just back off now.
frus69 Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 I don't know if he's interested or not.. your information is not solid evidence. Some people do contradict themselves when it comes to words and actions, I'm not sure if they are all technically lies. But I'd say if you have given enough effort then balls on his court. If he doesn't do anything I would drop him.
Buddhist Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 Honestly if its this frustrating now, it's not going to change overnight. Just let it go.
Author crazybestie101 Posted November 13, 2015 Author Posted November 13, 2015 Honestly if its this frustrating now, it's not going to change overnight. Just let it go. Once i even thought off dropping this mind games and just tell him. But i don't know how much its worth to chase a guy? As a girl my mind tells me not to ask a guy out as guy will see me as "easy " or "desperate"..
Author crazybestie101 Posted November 13, 2015 Author Posted November 13, 2015 I don't know if he's interested or not.. your information is not solid evidence. Some people do contradict themselves when it comes to words and actions, I'm not sure if they are all technically lies. But I'd say if you have given enough effort then balls on his court. If he doesn't do anything I would drop him. All he does is say hi and looks for me everywhere, acts like he wants me to be around so he usually goes where i am. He used to stare at me but now that i talk to him he stopped doing it but he would from across room..Also, i think he stalks me on social media too lol
frus69 Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 All he does is say hi and looks for me everywhere, acts like he wants me to be around so he usually goes where i am. He used to stare at me but now that i talk to him he stopped doing it but he would from across room..Also, i think he stalks me on social media too lol yeah see I don't know if that's all just in your head or not...I kinda hear a lot of stories when girls think the guy is staring at them.. How did you initiate? Did you ever ask to hang out with him and what did he say? Did you guys ever hang out??
Author crazybestie101 Posted November 13, 2015 Author Posted November 13, 2015 yeah see I don't know if that's all just in your head or not...I kinda hear a lot of stories when girls think the guy is staring at them.. How did you initiate? Did you ever ask to hang out with him and what did he say? Did you guys ever hang out?? No, i never had courage to ask him to hangout as i said he never let our conversation flow in that direction..Usually its always like i ask him something he answers and adds some details. I always feel like i am dragging him to talk to me, i asked him about it indirectly he said he doesn't feel that way. i feel like we havent reach the stage where we can say we love talking to each other and we should hangout. its all because of him!!
losangelena Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 No, i never had courage to ask him to hangout as i said he never let our conversation flow in that direction..Usually its always like i ask him something he answers and adds some details. I always feel like i am dragging him to talk to me, i asked him about it indirectly he said he doesn't feel that way. i feel like we havent reach the stage where we can say we love talking to each other and we should hangout. its all because of him!! Not to sound harsh or anything, OP, but what stage? How old are y'all? Listen, you are doing all the work. Typically, when men are interested in a woman, even if they are PAINFULLY shy, they will find it within themselves to ask her out. If he's not even initiating conversations with you (about anything!), that's not a good sign. So you say he follows you around and on social media? So what? Do you really want to be with a guy who just follows you around? Or one who lies to you about what he does and what he's interested in? Real talk—why are you so hung up on whether or not this guy likes you? Ask yourself why you like him so much. I'm curious, too—what is it about this guy that you like so much that has you overanalying to this extent? 'Cause from where I sit, I see a kind of strange, socially awkward guy who either A) can't get his stones together to ask you out properly, or B) isn't actually interested. Either way, there is probably someone better out there for you.
Author crazybestie101 Posted November 13, 2015 Author Posted November 13, 2015 Not to sound harsh or anything, OP, but what stage? How old are y'all? Listen, you are doing all the work. Typically, when men are interested in a woman, even if they are PAINFULLY shy, they will find it within themselves to ask her out. If he's not even initiating conversations with you (about anything!), that's not a good sign. So you say he follows you around and on social media? So what? Do you really want to be with a guy who just follows you around? Or one who lies to you about what he does and what he's interested in? Real talk—why are you so hung up on whether or not this guy likes you? Ask yourself why you like him so much. I'm curious, too—what is it about this guy that you like so much that has you overanalying to this extent? 'Cause from where I sit, I see a kind of strange, socially awkward guy who either A) can't get his stones together to ask you out properly, or B) isn't actually interested. Either way, there is probably someone better out there for you. Agree on every point with you! Let me answer your questions: Stage: comfort zone where we can just be us and talk about everything. We are still in trying to impress zone where we both think before we say anything. i do it too and so does he. I forgot to mention i never thought anything could happen with him but it was all started by him ( staring, constant eye contact, being around me, asking me about my life, always talking about his family) We both are 24.. I even thought he may be hiding his interest to find out if we have something similar. Regardless, i hate those stupid mind games.. Why i like him : We think same way when it comes to many things in life ( found that while talking), same careers, same family values ( different culture background though), share same work ethic. Not sure i see something long term as of now but if its possible it would be awesome..
ExpatInItaly Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 He doesn't sound very interested, no. Just leave it. 1
Glitters Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 A guy will chase if he is interested even if you are the initiator. He wouldnt want to lose you.This guy isnt responding like a man who is interested. Some men like being around women and giving wrong impressions about being interested.Its for ego boost, feeling desired while all the time there eyes / heart is wandering for the right match. Stop chasing him.He might come crawling, for ego boost. 1
Author crazybestie101 Posted November 16, 2015 Author Posted November 16, 2015 As title says i just want to ask him out and get over with it? regardless of the out come? is it worth it??? Last week when i saw him i ignored him entire day, he seemed pretty annoyed. He tried to talk to me but i was with other people so he left.. How can i ask him ??
Buddhist Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 As title says i just want to ask him out and get over with it? regardless of the out come? is it worth it??? Last week when i saw him i ignored him entire day, he seemed pretty annoyed. He tried to talk to me but i was with other people so he left.. How can i ask him ?? Stop ignoring him and playing mind games in an attempt to risk nothing and force him into action. If you want to ask him, next time you see him go straight up and ask him. You'll know where you stand at least.
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