mightycpa Posted November 16, 2015 Posted November 16, 2015 That seems crazy to me!!! I guess at this stage of my life 30 months would be alright because i'm 29 and I know myself very well and what I want from life and relationships and such. But in my 20s there's no way i'd get engaged to someone I'd only known 2.5 years. you can't make blanket statements about relationships like that.. there are way too many variables to consider. Love is a lot like shopping for an outfit. Sure, you might find the perfect one at the first store you hit, hanging on the first rack you see, and maybe it makes a lot of sense to try it on and gaze in the mirror for hours. But chances are that you'll learn a lot more about current fashion and pricing and what you look good in if you try a few dresses on at a few stores, until you find the one you want. You'll know it when you see it, because you also know what else is out there. I'm not saying that you're wrong for you, but rather, that it's just too simple to say that because you don't know yourself well, it is perfectly reasonable to spend so much time with one person when it is almost certain to result in naught. I'm not saying that you should have demanded or even accepted an engagement, only that there is great benefit to having a variety of relationships with a few people before you settle down. Of course, it's also very hard to know this if nobody shares this perspective with you when you are young and dating. So listen up, young ladies! You'll be much better off having had 4 relationships of varying length and seriousness in those 7 years, than just one that lasts for the same length of time. After all, you're shopping around.
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