PDPullmn612 Posted May 25, 2005 Posted May 25, 2005 Where to start.... Me and my girlfriend had been dating for 5 months and a few weeks. We go to boarding school so we had been dating since December. Everything was fine for like about 3 and a half months. However, after our march break, we started arguing and fighting alot. In one argument i said something that hurt her, and she claims caused her to lose some feelings for me, enough to want to take a break to see if the feelings would come back. I wasn't going to argue about it with her, because whether i objected or not, she would have done it anyway. Im just really confused, she says she still loves me, but doesn't have enough feelings to be with me right now. I don't know what to think anymore. Of course im upset about this, but i just need some help and advise on what i should do. We talked about it after we went on the break about how we both feel. A few days ago she said that everything will be OK and that we would get back together. Obviously i didn't get my my hopes up, because she cant say that for sure, so im not expecting to get back together. The problem is we sit at the same table at meals, we have the same friends, and we still talk. I don't know if thats a good thing or a bad thing. I just need some advice on what to do, i would hate for our relationship to end because we were happy together. Thanks in advance.
greenhorn Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 Well the post seems to suggest me that you both are young and may be this was the first serious relationship for you people. After being in LS and reading numerous posts for the better part of the year , I have learnt that no one tends to have a lasting first relationship and they always want to explore more and try out for better and girls do it more than guys. I guess your gf wants a break from you just to explore her opporunities and even if it hurts you let me say that I see bleak chance of her coming back. You should convince yourself that it is over and even if you need to wait for her then don't keep any hope. If you can wait without keeping hope then it is better, but it is difficult to do. How long can you wait for her? you are young and you have your own life, you can also look for some one else to love and so don't restrict yourself. If someone wants to walk out of your life then please let them go, don't hold on , it is of no use. If the same group hurts you then you might think of changing the groups for the time being, but if that is not possible then try to grow indifferent to her, sounds difficult but if you try you can do it, and once you get someone else the graph of forgetting her will be steeper. Good Luck boy..
haywood Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 if she wants space then give her space. don't be needy or become depressed. she wants to find those feelings she had about you again. just be upbeat and busy. she'll wonder why she didn't have an effect on you. keep your head up and she'll come around. good luck
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