Zippy2000 Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 (edited) Good day, peeps. I d just like to get some input or share some thoughts on this. I ve known a girl for over a year. She knows I like her and at the moment she is on holiday. In a message I sent to her. I referred to an Oasis song "Half the world away" and about that song been used in a John Lewis advert. Here is the advert: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wuz2ILq4UeA She replied back saying she saw the advert and it made her cry and she said: "Im over 3000KM away. Miss you *smiley face with love heart kiss*. The input or question is. Does a girl like you if she says something like that or is she just flirting? Half way down the next messages she then puts this "Im going to get drunk before flying because - God forbid anything happens I will go out in style. Love you lots just in case xXx" Whats your thoughts? Does she mean it? (Women - would you say that to a bloke who you weren`t into)? Edited November 13, 2015 by Zippy2000
thecrucible Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 To me it sounds like she likes you. It doesn't seem like something someone would say as a playful flirt.
Author Zippy2000 Posted November 13, 2015 Author Posted November 13, 2015 Thanks for your input Crucible. I m asking as I read somewhere that if someone puts "Miss you" its more informal and like a friend but if its "I miss you", its more personal and you`re more closer and in an relationship.
angel.eyes Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 Have you asked her out on a date? Stop obsessing over whether she omitted using the word "I" to send a signal and just ask her out already. Fortune favors the bold.
losangelena Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 Good day, peeps. I d just like to get some input or share some thoughts on this. I ve known a girl for over a year. She knows I like her and at the moment she is on holiday. In a message I sent to her. I referred to an Oasis song "Half the world away" and about that song been used in a John Lewis advert. Here is the advert: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wuz2ILq4UeA She replied back saying she saw the advert and it made her cry and she said: "Im over 3000KM away. Miss you *smiley face with love heart kiss*. The input or question is. Does a girl like you if she says something like that or is she just flirting? Half way down the next messages she then puts this "Im going to get drunk before flying because - God forbid anything happens I will go out in style. Love you lots just in case xXx" Whats your thoughts? Does she mean it? (Women - would you say that to a bloke who you weren`t into)? Questions, OP: How do you know her? How does she know you like her? Have you asked her out? What are you waiting for?
Author Zippy2000 Posted November 13, 2015 Author Posted November 13, 2015 Have you asked her out on a date? Stop obsessing over whether she omitted using the word "I" to send a signal and just ask her out already. Fortune favors the bold. LOL! Calm down! Innot obssessing. we need to work on your soft skills on communication:laugh: I ve asked her out already and have been out but she is a chef and works 48 hour weeks. I m just asking for thoughts.
Author Zippy2000 Posted November 13, 2015 Author Posted November 13, 2015 Questions, OP: How do you know her? How does she know you like her? Have you asked her out? What are you waiting for? To answer your questions I met her in a bar. She works as a chef and my friends told me if I liked her I should go and ask her. I didnt agree initially but I walked up to her and gave her number. I ve told her from the beginning I liked her I ve asked her out and have only been out once on a day trip but this was July. Im not waiting for anything but Im curious as to why she now tells me "Miss you". Shes away on holiday and this is the first time shes opened up.
basil67 Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 You've only been out once since July? With that hit rate, this relationship is going nowhere.
Glitters Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 Distance makes the heart grow fonder ? When she comes back, you may have to push a little bit to get things moving.
phineas Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 (edited) She may of just been emotional about flying. July? She can't miss you that much. Pro-tip. If a woman is into you she will move mountains and blow off her friends and family to spend time with you in order to lock you down before some other woman does. Actions. Not words. I have known plenty of women over the years that have straight up told me we were just friends. Then tell me they miss me or were thinking of me if I texted them but its just noise because if it were true they wouldn't be "busy" whenever I texted them to hang out. So, I stopped being friends with those types of women because just texting someone who doesn't want to hangout is not friendship or anything but a waste of time far as I'm concerned. Edited November 13, 2015 by phineas 3
angel.eyes Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 Sorry, but one date since July...i.e. in four months? I wouldn't even bother responding to her "miss you" text. Frankly, it's a mockery of the concept! When guys do this over a couple of weeks, not months, I ignore them (and have already moved on). I suggest you do the same because you're wasting your time and energy.
Buddhist Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 Miss you *smiley face with love heart kiss*. God forbid anything happens I will go out in style. Love you lots just in case xXx" Whats your thoughts? Does she mean it? (Women - would you say that to a bloke who you weren`t into)? I talk like this to my gay male friends if that helps. Could just be her communication style though. Some women are over the top emotional for no real reason.
Author Zippy2000 Posted November 13, 2015 Author Posted November 13, 2015 You've only been out once since July? With that hit rate, this relationship is going nowhere. Whoa! Slow down cowboy!. If you get the facts then you can form an opinion. She works a 48 hour week. She is working 11.5 hours on Monday. Anyway she cam back on holiday and messaged me when she landed and sent me a pic of her. I like this girl. People say this relationship is going no where. Well I d like to give her a bit of time. People move on too fast but youre right. She isnt my girlfriend yet so that means I still still talk to other girls and date them but this is the girl I want.
angel.eyes Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 (edited) Great. You have a pic and a text. When is your next date? Dude, I work 80-90 hours/week, and I travel. My boyfriend works 60-70. We still see each other most days of the week. I don't know anyone who works less than 60 hours/week. Yet, we all manage to date frequently and maintain healthy romantic relationships. Heck Sarkozy managed to date and get married while running a G5 country! Clearly you are willing to hang on for months on end in the hopes of another date with her. That's your choice. We all get to live our lives as we see fit. But what's your end game here? Just another date? A romantic relationship? To be an orbiter eagerly awaiting whenever she might deign to give you a little attention? Think carefully about what it is you really hope to get out of this. With her brutally busy 48-hour work week that limits seeing you to once every four months or so, would she ever be able to give you the level of interaction you may hope for? Would thrice-yearly dating with occasional, erratic emoji-laden texting be a satisfactory outcome for your efforts? Edited November 14, 2015 by angel.eyes 1
frus69 Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Lots of girls kiss guys say love you/miss you to guys put "xx" at the end when they text guys but they don't like those guys, they only see them as friends. I don't think she is very hot for you at all. Maybe she feels a bit lonely.
phineas Posted November 14, 2015 Posted November 14, 2015 Great. You have a pic and a text. When is your next date? Dude, I work 80-90 hours/week, and I travel. My boyfriend works 60-70. We still see each other most days of the week. I don't know anyone who works less than 60 hours/week. Yet, we all manage to date frequently and maintain healthy romantic relationships. Heck Sarkozy managed to date and get married while running a G5 country! Clearly you are willing to hang on for months on end in the hopes of another date with her. That's your choice. We all get to live our lives as we see fit. But what's your end game here? Just another date? A romantic relationship? To be an orbiter eagerly awaiting whenever she might deign to give you a little attention? Think carefully about what it is you really hope to get out of this. With her brutally busy 48-hour work week that limits seeing you to once every four months or so, would she ever be able to give you the level of interaction you may hope for? Would thrice-yearly dating with occasional, erratic emoji-laden texting be a satisfactory outcome for your efforts? This. WTF OP? 48hrs is a standard work week for most salaried people. I even have kids half the week. I still go out.
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