Xidion Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 My last two relationships both ended in me being cheated on, forgiving the person, only to be left a couple months after. One lasting 2 years, the other 6 months. In both of these relationships, they lived with me. I paid every bill in the house, and contributed fully. That's what a girl wants right? A man who has a great job who takes care of everything? I was there emotionally as well. Spent time with them, connected with them.. etc. Anyhow, after the first time being cheated on, I started lifting weights and eating heatlhy to pick myself back up.. then i met what i thought was this great girl. Way more attractive than my ex, into the same things as me.. I'm a musician and she a student for music composition. She had some hang ups on her ex and ended up cheating on me, then leaving me to get back with him. It's been 2 months now, and this time i haven't been able to pick myself up. I've gained 15 pounds. I don't care what I eat, my apartment is a mess. I can't seem to find any sort of motivation. I've hit rock bottom. I still think about her every single day. My bones start shaking at the thought of her. I don't know what it is. I'm 30 and I've had a lot of messed up relationships. One of my problems is i ignore red flags because I'm infatuated with the thought of love and having a family. That's all I want.. is for someone to love me as much as I'm capable of loving them. I want children.. a family to provide for, protect, and love. This is the first time in my life I feel as if I've hit rock bottom and have had trouble picking myself back up. I don't really know what to do.. Any help is much appreciated.
Heartbrokenguy80 Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 Don't worry. You are not alone. I'm mid 30s with 4 failed relationship. It takes time. Time will heal all wound. Be patient. Try to keep yourself busy. Go traveling. Learn new stuff. Go into new hobby. Go out with friends. It will help a bit.
bigcajunlover Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 I am sorry to hear about your experience an feel you have been open and it appears very honest with you recent partners. If you continue to be as generous you should find rewards but it is not about who shares or pays upfront. The issue of trust and giving of love is key to this. I may not be the best advisor on total commitment to one person but can say when you love a person it should be for ever. Wish you all the best in future encounters that could lead to move rewarding love for you.
mightycpa Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 In both of these relationships, they lived with me. I paid every bill in the house, and contributed fully. That's what a girl wants right? A man who has a great job who takes care of everything? I was there emotionally as well. Spent time with them, connected with them.. etc.It has been my experience that women find out that this is very nice to have in a man, but they want more than just that. They want more than that in a man, and frankly, you should want more than a woman who is content to be kept. It sounds like you have a great opportunity here to create some music that will help you express your feelings. You're lucky.. I could barely play the recorder, but I had this driving need to express myself through poetry and song, so I had to learn how to play some guitar first. You've got to get some passion for something. Last time it was physical. Maybe music will do it for you this time around. The physical stuff is good though, because it sends chemicals into your body to combat the breakup chemicals that have taken over your brain. You know the drill, you've got to do the time. I think you also know that the clouds will break and the sun will shine again. Good luck, Xidion.
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