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My 2+ year girlfriend recently broke up with me, and we talked it out, both eventually agreeing it was for the best even though I needed a bit of extra convincing.

 

I'm now starting to be a little happier again, though I still have the short term break up blues every once in a while. However, one of the hardest thoughts I come across is that I feel bad for her.

 

I feel bad that she probably feels guilty for leaving. When she told me she wanted to break up, I really tried to fight it. I made lists of reasons and excuses on why we shouldn't break up, but obviously those didn't work. I said "I wish we never dated" and other things of the type because I was upset. I'd also like to point out that it was 2 in the morning, and I don't remember exactly everything I said, and so now I feel guilty because I don't remember if I left it amicably, or just kind of told her this isn't fair and that I wasn't her biggest fan.

 

I also feel guilty for other weird things, like that I'm realizing that I'm going to be so much happier now, even just in the first few days. I've started working out again, and I feel guilty for that. I feel guilty asking other girls for their numbers.

 

Is it just overly narcissistic to think she might feel bad for me, or that she's sad too? How can I get over these feelings of guilt, because it's most likely all in my head anyways?

Edited by rjblak13
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Her feelings are not really your business right now. Only yours.

You cant change the past.

She is probably feeling a lot if different things, just like you. That's fine. She is a grown up and can figure it out on her own.

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