Who do you talk to (in real life) about your relationship issues?

[Timshel]

Yeah burnt, my words aren't sweet but thanks. You have talent, a gift. I don't feel sorry for you but I am sorry that you feel like mud for a minute.

This will pass....good is coming. Btw, don't apologize to people so much. A difference of opinion is nothing to 'write' about. Equal adversaries learn a good deal from each other. Good being the operative and no I don't mean me.

 

On OP: My mom was my go to but she is aging and I don't worry her for anything. I guess if I am going to exist with my choices then I don't bug other people. If I don't like my choices Mighty, I won't be cute with someone else feeling bad for their own choices. Negative 2=less than zero.

[MissBee]

People generally DO NOT enjoy talking about these things face to face.

 

I think probably of all my friends, I may be one of the few who frequents a forum like this. To the contrary of what you say, most of my friends ask other people they know for advice.

 

Even me, I came to LS after a breakup, mostly because I got sick of bothering my friends with it. I used my real life support system first before coming here. These days, I spend more time discussing or giving advice here than asking for it. What your real friends think may have more consequence to you than what strangers think so there is a way in which you may tend to be more honest here....but then your friends also know you and face to face hashing out details of a situation might be easier than typing a novel online to people who don't know you. But there are pros and cons to both.

 

In any event, my best friend, sister, and multiple other close friends are people I go to with my relationship issues. My bestfriend is #1. There is NOTHING I feel I can't tell her. She's known me since the 7th grade and we've gone through all kinds of ups and down together, she's seen my growth and mistakes and she is rational and sound, so I pretty much always talk to her first.However, throwing a problem out to LS can also be useful, especially just to vent and get it out there, even if you aren't necessarily expecting a solution. So it depends. But for me, there isn't any problem I've had relationship-wise that I have kept from my real life support system and only shared with LS.

Edited November 16, 2015 by MissBee

[Ms. Faust]

Well, right now our relationship issues don't extend beyond "pick your damn socks off the floor" but first and foremost I talk to him. Other than that I go to a message board. If the **** really hits the fan I run home to mommy.

 

At least that was my modus operandi in the past.

 

I actually feel bad about the latter part of this method, because it has occurred to me that as much as I tell my mom I am doing great she is always waiting for the other shoe to drop.

[Els]

I'm a girl, and no, no one else IRL. Sure I have friends IRL whom I talk to on the surface about relationships, but not about the really deep stuff. I save that for online friends.

 

The reason isn't really lack of trust so much as the fact that when you are in a LTR, your RL friends all automatically become mutual friends to a certain degree. At least, that's how we do things. I meet his friends and he meets mine, ditto with family. And I once heard a quote that rings very true - you may say something about your SO and then kiss and make up and forget about it... but the people you talked to about it aren't going to forget.

 

So, just too much potential social awkwardness to share with friends IRL, IMO. I don't think the friends I share with online are any 'lesser' either just because we're not meeting up IRL, honestly. Many of them I've known for a very long time, and they have been every bit as dear and true to me as friends I know IRL. Different people come into your life in different ways and for different reasons, and I'm okay with that.

[sandylee1]

I would never discuss the detail of my relationship with anyone, but general relationship stuff... I have some friends and we all talk about husbands..like good or bad at DIY...helping with the kids etc.

 

I read around and try and find a solution.

[Ms. Faust]

It's kind of interesting how so many of us go online to bare our souls. I suppose the anonymity of it all helps.