Fella17 Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Hello everybody! This is my first post here...I will make simple and short introduction regarding it: I am a freshman in college and there is one girl that I like...a lot. It has been more than a month since starting college and we were all a bit shy and everything. This girl too, obviously. At the start, I have noticed that she is cute, but nothing more. As the weeks were flying by, I was getting more and more interested in her. I do not know, I think there is just something about her that makes me go crazy...I am not sure. Last week I have finally said a couple of words to her. We were together on bus and we have talked for maybe 20 minutes. Since then, we have talked more and more. School, free time, fears, memories form past...We talk especially on bus, because we are taking the same route. I just want to know where do I stand with her...I know it has been short time since we met each other, but still...I am always looking forward to talk to her, to be in company, or to just watch and observe her. Couple of things about her "behaviour": I have noticed that she laughs at a lot of things that I say, that she is kind of quiet and shy (maybe I am wrong), but then as I start talking to her, she seems to open up. She is kind, polite, funny, willing to help,... One more thing that I noticed at the start: if I looked at her, she moved her eyes away from me; same thing happened last week when I first encountered her. She went up on the bus ahead of me, and was already sitted in the first rows of bus (she was checking mobile phone). As I went in, I have already wanted to go past her, but then...something struck my mind: Why wouldn`t I initiate conversation with her if I have this chance? Just before I said something to her, she raised her head up, smiled, and that is how it all started...When we were not talking yet, she seems to avoid eye contact, but when I came to her, she opened herself. She reminds me a bit of myself; I am one of those shy people that rather wait for others to come to me, but when that happens, my shyness doesn`t shine too much anymore which is good! As I said, it has been probably a bit too short of times to come to any conclusions yet, but any help would be appreciated. Should I ask her if she is up for any coffee? One of the things I know for sure: I love to be in her company and that is something already, right? Oh, and one more thing that always bothers me after our conversations: there are so many great topics that later come to my mind and then I am making big deal out of it, worrying about it (thinking and saying to myself: "Why didn`t I start talking about this and this? We would have so much to say..."). I always come to this great topic ideas after our actual conversations...If that makes sense Long text, a bit confusing too...Anyway, thanks for any answer!
Ic1 Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Yes, ask her to have a conversation with a social boost. Caffeine in coffee. That simple. 1
empresario Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 I don't know why you're making things more complicated than they have to be. Just ask her out. The fact that you want to ask her out but are here wondering if you should...tells me that you do not have a lot of experience with women. I usually chalk this kind of thing up to 'magic 8 ball' posting, because we really have no idea if she likes you. The only way to find out is to ask her out. One thing about being inexperienced (I know this from my own journey) is that you also don't know when someone is being nice when they like you, and when they are being nice because they are a nice person. The ability to distinguish that comes from experience. Be prepared that she may say no. And be alright with that. Think of this as a way to grow and improve your own social self-awareness, regardless of the outcome. 2
Author Fella17 Posted November 12, 2015 Author Posted November 12, 2015 I don't know why you're making things more complicated than they have to be. Just ask her out. The fact that you want to ask her out but are here wondering if you should...tells me that you do not have a lot of experience with women. I usually chalk this kind of thing up to 'magic 8 ball' posting, because we really have no idea if she likes you. The only way to find out is to ask her out. One thing about being inexperienced (I know this from my own journey) is that you also don't know when someone is being nice when they like you, and when they are being nice because they are a nice person. The ability to distinguish that comes from experience. Be prepared that she may say no. And be alright with that. Think of this as a way to grow and improve your own social self-awareness, regardless of the outcome. True. That is why I am still wondering. I think I really should ask her out and see the outcome... Again, true as hell! I have no idea, if she is just nice or really likes me... I think I should have some courage to ask her out, shouldn`t care about rejection, and that is it. Thanks for answers! I appreciate it!
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