RedRobin Posted November 18, 2015 Posted November 18, 2015 You've hit the nail on the head, although you must admit the situation with my friend was quite bizarre. My H has left home to spend the night at a hotel for no good reason....over a petty argument. He changed his as passcode on his credit card so I couldn't see the charges. He admitted his reasons to be gone were petty..,I'm considering I may be in the cheaper to keep her category. He's behaving with such entitlement... I deserve better. I'm just now realizing I've been beating myself up over nothing. I'm working on getting stronger and not allowing anyone to wipe their feet on me....I'm now ready to see the truth. Forget her. Be thankful that this showed your H's true colors. Why is it cheaper to keep him? The same thoughts went through my head years ago when my now ex H was cheating on me. He came from old money. From all outward appearances we had a great life... But think about all of the decisions and compromises you would not have made otherwise... If you weren't married to someone who is not acting in good faith. Call me an idealist, but I'd rather live on my own terms, and alone, rather than tied to some person who daily abuses my trust.
Author Gigi2015 Posted November 18, 2015 Author Posted November 18, 2015 I have worked for most of our marriage. I don't fear divorce from a financial standpoint. I would have enough to start over. We have had a long marriage. I've been happy for the majority of it. He tells me he has too. I think the last couple of years have been tough off/on. We've both contributed but I don't think we can't get past this. The "leaving" to a hotel due to an argument is new. It's happened about 6 times. I'm not ok with that. I'm hoping he finally got the point the last time. The other thing is he throws the word divorce out constantly. I want to feel safe again.
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