I guess its the thrill of the chase?

[aprilisi]

I posted here a while back about a man I'd been talking to for over two months. I bit the bullet and asked if he wanted to do something. His response was he was having financial difficulties. I told him we didn't have to spend money and waited a month. Nothing. I'm just sick of men not taking the I initiative anymore. Every date I've had in the last several months has been from me asking. I am horribly shy and this is totally against my nature.

 

So I told him him the other day I was tired of waiting. In a nice way and wished him good luck.

 

Now he won't leave me alone. But I feel some resentment for having to suggest a date myself. Twice. Ok...alot of resentment

 

I hate to be petty. I was ignoring him cause I can't block him on my phone. Today I messaged him back though. That I didn't think we would mesh and maybe he'd have better luck with someone else. I gotta say I'm a bit concerned over the volume of messages. Makes me think I did the right thing overall.

Edited November 12, 2015 by aprilisi

[Jejangles]

You did the right thing. Some men are just looking for pen pals and text buddies, they have no intention of actually meeting in person.

 

Next time don't wait two months! Give a guy at most about two weeks to ask you out, and if he doesn't, move onto the next. There's no point emotionally connecting and spending time communicating with someone who has no interest in actually moving forward.

[aussietigerwolf]

Know how you feel. I was talking to this guy I met online for months. Said he was shy and wanted to talk a bit before meeting. So months later I ask if he wants to meet up and I get a bunch of excuses. So I politely wish him well and he totally loses it... I ended up having to block him.

[smackie9]

Good lord push yourself away from the computer and get out of the house and meet people.

[Zippy2000]

Push me pull me tactics. These men can be hot and cold too. You reached out to him. Being a man he considered you too available and when he got you he is now chasing you back.

 

Humans always want what they cant have. He`s now on the chase and he`ll be back. They always come back.

 

Ive said this time and time again. If a man is interested. Its in his actions and he would have texted or called initally and not when you say you cal it quits.

[hippychick3]

You shouldn't be talking to people online for 2 months without meeting. It's a total waste of your time. Online is just a medium for making first contact to arrange to meet in person. It's not meant to be a way of dating. When I was doing online dating, if the guy didn't make plans to meet within a week of chatting I moved on. Didn't bother to tell him. I just moved on. Who has time to be pen pals with a stranger?