seekingluck Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Ok please bear with me as I am obsessing a little. I went on a great "date" (it was labelled hanging out but felt like a date) over the weekend. One of the best ever. There was lne small red flag. Background: I met the (long distance) guy at work, but he was a vendor. We harmlessly flirted for a few months. I recently changed jobs - so no more comflicts. He suggested we celebrate if I came to his city. I did ans he planned an outing for us (alone). This was the first time we soent time togetger outside of work. We have been social media friends for a few months and share a few connections, mostly my former coworkers. A few of my former coworkers knew that we were hanging out but not that I was crushing on him. Now back to the outing. In the middle of the date we took a silly selfie. He asked if he could post it on facebook and i agreed. But in the back of my head I was a little surprised he wanted to post it. Most guys I kmow avoid posting pics with random women (particularly when standing closely) just for appearances. Reviewing the photo we looked a little cozy. I felt like we were "outed" to our mutual friends and colleagues. And sure enough i got some questions from my family on the unknown guy who I took a photo with. So people of loveshack, have you ever posted a photo with someone to your social networks, with just the two of you, in the early stages when things are not defined yet? Has it happened to you?
Lansing Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Maybe he was trying to make some other girl jealous... Or, maybe he thought you were pretty hot and wanted to show you off.. At least he asked you if it was okay to post it.. and you did say yes... I agree though, normally I would keep things quiet at early stages. Also possible that he saw it as more a friendly outing than a "Date". Did he make a move?\ 2
Author seekingluck Posted November 12, 2015 Author Posted November 12, 2015 Maybe he was trying to make some other girl jealous... Or, maybe he thought you were pretty hot and wanted to show you off.. At least he asked you if it was okay to post it.. and you did say yes... I agree though, normally I would keep things quiet at early stages. Also possible that he saw it as more a friendly outing than a "Date". Did he make a move?\ Let's say I was a little confused how it would go down, initially I thought he'd want to just do drinks or maybe dinner when I was in town. He suggested a special outing, and made that the preferred choice for our time together. Reasons for the date category - we spent 8 hours together alone (he planned the outing). He complimented me on my looks. He also dressed up. He paid and insisted on it (not a cheap outing). He was a bit touchy - crossing past where we stood before and it ended with a kiss on the cheek. We hugged a little too long/close to be just friendly. Previous hugs were more platonic. So I left feeling like the flirting was real.
mystikmind2005 Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Guy conversation; Guy 1 "you should have seen this girl i dated" Guy 2 "where is she now?" Guy 1 "i screwed it up as usual" Guy 2 "what again? are you sure these girls are even real?" Guy 1 "ok next time i will take a picture before i screw it up"
Author seekingluck Posted November 12, 2015 Author Posted November 12, 2015 Guy conversation; Guy 1 "you should have seen this girl i dated" Guy 2 "where is she now?" Guy 1 "i screwed it up as usual" Guy 2 "what again? are you sure these girls are even real?" Guy 1 "ok next time i will take a picture before i screw it up" Lol. But i am way average compared with the some of the women he has photos with. I think I am only on the list because we are finishing each other's sentences. 1
mrldii Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Personally, I think it's sweet and cute. Not sure it means anything at all. Other than it is proof-positive he's not ashamed to be seen with you. Not sure there's a down side to that, no matter how hard one tries to find it. Best of luck to you (both?), OP... 1
Author seekingluck Posted November 12, 2015 Author Posted November 12, 2015 Personally, I think it's sweet and cute. Not sure it means anything at all. Other than it is proof-positive he's not ashamed to be seen with you. Not sure there's a down side to that, no matter how hard one tries to find it. Best of luck to you (both?), OP... Thanks. I think he is awesome, but there are distance and bandwidth challenges. But there is definitely a connection already and we have only had one outing. He opened up quite a bit during our date.
loveweary11 Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 I never post anything in initial stages. I had the hand/wrist of a girl in my snap this week and other girls got mad at me. It was nothing more than her hand holding her nice looking drink at the table.
blueskyday Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 I really don't like the idea of pics on the first date. I've had a lot of guys try to do it, and while I understand that it could be a cute sentimental pic if we keep dating, I think it's an invasion of privacy. I don't snap cozy couple pics until we are a couple. Otherwise, it's a false sense of intimacy. Besides, I used to go on a lot of first dates. If pics of all were posted, then it would have looked like I got around! It's nice he asked. Take it if you want, but feel free to decline if you don't. No guy ever got mad when I declined. I usually smiled and said. "Oh, let's take one next time." Sometimes there was no next time, so no biggie. Up to you, but if you take one, I would suggest taking one like you would with a coworker: professionall and with a little distance between you. Maybe spotlight an activity or something, like the food or the band... Good luck!
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