lb1990 Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for 5, almost 6 years. And when I say on and off....wehavent been together more than 8 months at a time. And the problem is he has cheated on me every single one of those times. In the past I've been weak and have taken him back... I recently have felt lonely, an just not wanting to be with him. I don't love him anymore and its time to leave. I am the only one who has a job, pays for his child support for his other child. (We have 2 together and he has one other child th a wasconcieved when I was 8 months pregnant with our first). Honestly I don't know how to get out of this relationship it may seem easy to do....but he guilts me and somehow stops me. Right now the only thing really stopping me is that he watches he kids while I go to work. I put in an application for day care so in the next week or so I will have that taken care of. But he has an anger problem and has hit me before which also makes me anxious about telling him I want him to move out. He belittles me and makes me believe I can't do it on my own. I know I can but hes very manipulative and makes me believe I can't. I just need advice on how to do this, when, etc. I feel trapped. And I don't need to by old I'm stupid for continuously taking him back....I know. But now I NEED and WANT to leave and need advice and support.
bitterbetty14 Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 I'm sorry you are going through all of this. He definitely needs to go! If you are worried about his anger - I wouldn't ask him to leave by yourself. You need some people around you in case he tries anything. Make sure that a friend can stay the night with you in case he comes back, and I would also change the locks immediately. You deserve better and you need to get that toxic man out of your life! Good luck!
Silver_star Posted November 13, 2015 Posted November 13, 2015 What an ass! I am not sure where you are from, but there are usually state/provincial programs in place to assist women in these kinds of issues. He should NOT be hitting you. It's not okay under any circumstances. The children are not safe in this environment. Get away, reach out to other family/friends or state programs for financial assistance or other assistance (day care) should you need it. Google programs in your area that assist women and children in distress. DO IT NOW. Seriously. This man does not love you. The priority is safety for your children, and yourself. They deserve to not be in that environment. You need to take them out of the situation...its not fair of you to cling to something out of fear at this point. It's not just you.
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