latida Posted May 26, 2005 Posted May 26, 2005 Originally posted by blind_otter I am attracted to men with blue eyes and dark hair who have Scottish accents and buy me shoes as gifts instead of flowers. And who take me on stoner trips to Amsterdam. Dito! Something about that Scottish brogue, drives me crazy! And shoes, definitely. That is the last gift I got from my bf and he wants to take me shoe shopping for my b-day
chronic Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 I like..... A women who is quiet but seductive. And I tend to go for girls who play mind games. I kinda like the innocent but not so innocent kind of thing. Yeah I know, I'm kinda messed in the head. Oh and a curvaceous body with kind of a girlish face. I can't stand bland personalities or over-the-top party-type girls.
moon Posted May 30, 2005 Posted May 30, 2005 That's a good question! I'd like to think about it..... In the past, I have been attracted to men who I think are the strong, silent type. I like good looking men (no harm in that!). I usually like fair haired men, blonde, dirty blonde hair, but no two of the men I have dated look even remotely alike. I am more attracted to personality. I like a confident man, who has a weak side, but isn't embarrassed about it. You know when it comes down to it, I think I am more attracted to the mama's boys. I want that to stop. I think many of the men I have dated in the past are not healthy individuals. They have a lot of problems from their past, yet look for a strong women to sort of mask it all. I don't want that anymore. I usually like the guy who is sort of the center of attention, but more because people are concerned about them and love them in a little boy type of way. I like men with a lot of hobbies. I have to be interested in them as people. I like men with a good sense of humor. If they have a good sense of humor I get sold very quickly. I think in a way I like to be in charge. I think relationships should be an equal partnership, so I am working on my desire to lead. In those cases the responsibility then rests too much on my shoulders. Anyway, so my "type" is evolving. What I liked in the past isn't necessarily what I want anymore. But that's life, we are constantly changing what we want all the time.
nicki Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 hmmm, i'd say: - STRONG, ATHLETIC, yes, MANLY (not a macho gym rat or professional sports guy, though. i prefer a guy who is physical in his daily life instead. he doesn't have to fit any image here, just a physical guy who would go hiking with me, stuff like that.) Oh, and i'm a sucker for a guy chopping wood in a white tee shirt and levi's...makes any guy instantly gorgeous! I'll bring the lemonade. - LOVES SEX, especially because it's with me. passionate in life, too. Loves food, laughing, etc...indulges his senses. loves indulging mine, too. - SENSITIVE, BUT CONFIDENT. he must be kind, with a good heart, but won't take crap from other people either. - OLD SCHOOL MANNERS. gets the door for me, holds my hand, compliments me. doesn't gawk at other women, good social skills - FAITHFUL, LOYAL, HONEST (the holy trinity of a good man!) this is the stuff of major trust. - HAS A HEALTHY EGO, BUT DOESN'T NEED IT STROKED BY OTHERS. he is happy on his own, too, wants a woman, but doesn't NEED one. he has a good sense of who is he is and what his motivations are. - STRAIGHTFORWARD COMMUNICATOR. talks about his wants, desires. likes to talk in general, and likes to listen, too. - SPOILS ME. also wants to me spoil him back. a true equal partner, not a guy who wants a b*tch who treats him like crap.... - WANTS TO PROTECT ME, physically, emotionally...this makes me feel feminine, safe and ready to show some love! - MUST BE CUTE TO ME IN SOME WAY. I tend to like men who go against the perfect looking god image. Give me a man who is interesting and unique, comfortable in his own skin.
whichwayisup Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by nicki hmmm, i'd say: - STRONG, ATHLETIC, yes, MANLY (not a macho gym rat or professional sports guy, though. i prefer a guy who is physical in his daily life instead. he doesn't have to fit any image here, just a physical guy who would go hiking with me, stuff like that.) Oh, and i'm a sucker for a guy chopping wood in a white tee shirt and levi's...makes any guy instantly gorgeous! I'll bring the lemonade. - LOVES SEX, especially because it's with me. passionate in life, too. Loves food, laughing, etc...indulges his senses. loves indulging mine, too. - SENSITIVE, BUT CONFIDENT. he must be kind, with a good heart, but won't take crap from other people either. - OLD SCHOOL MANNERS. gets the door for me, holds my hand, compliments me. doesn't gawk at other women, good social skills - FAITHFUL, LOYAL, HONEST (the holy trinity of a good man!) this is the stuff of major trust. - HAS A HEALTHY EGO, BUT DOESN'T NEED IT STROKED BY OTHERS. he is happy on his own, too, wants a woman, but doesn't NEED one. he has a good sense of who is he is and what his motivations are. - STRAIGHTFORWARD COMMUNICATOR. talks about his wants, desires. likes to talk in general, and likes to listen, too. - SPOILS ME. also wants to me spoil him back. a true equal partner, not a guy who wants a b*tch who treats him like crap.... - WANTS TO PROTECT ME, physically, emotionally...this makes me feel feminine, safe and ready to show some love! - MUST BE CUTE TO ME IN SOME WAY. I tend to like men who go against the perfect looking god image. Give me a man who is interesting and unique, comfortable in his own skin. N, I think EVERY woman wants a man just like that. Great post!
alphamale Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup N, I think EVERY woman wants a man just like that. Great post! problem is WWIU that almost every woman wants a dude like that and maybe 2%-5% of the men out there fall in this category so they have a lot of women interested in them and they tend to be cheaters and non-monagomous.
SASSYPRINCESS Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 i think i like a guy who has nice hands and nice feet with an average build and height.. i like guys with dark features, dark hair, blue eyes, olive skin... gotta be a metrosexual.. at least a little bit.. but i think he has to have a bit of back bone , not a bad boy but have a mind of his own, his own life and friends.. and def gotta to want to please in the bedroom and not just be all about him.. and younger.. i like about 2 - 4 years younger.. i dont know why , i just do.. wait a minute.. thats my boy now.. ! he is all that..
whichwayisup Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale problem is WWIU that almost every woman wants a dude like that and maybe 2%-5% of the men out there fall in this category so they have a lot of women interested in them and they tend to be cheaters and non-monagomous. Yeah, I said that in a wishful thinking kinda way actually. NOONE is going to fit all that criteria. Are you saying that men with those qualities are cheaters and can't be monagomous?
Guest Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 guys who are: bad boy-ish have nice hair-nice to put hands through intelligent sweet sensitive (the bad boy look w/sensitive personality & smart----DROOL-WINNING combo) blue eyes a plus open and honest williing to talk about feelings ROMANTIC-- especially liking the music of Chicago; lol/willing to be vulnerable and corny manly not religious or judgemental have a good future ahead of them not boring; open to new things; adventurous have similar background as me (BIG) willing to disagree w/me wants sex a lot and also uninhibited and willing to try my sexual fantasies not arrogant; I'm a sucker for the lower self esteem guys NO MAMA'S BOYS willing to stick up for me/protect me
CurlyIam Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by whichwayisup Yeah, I said that in a wishful thinking kinda way actually. NOONE is going to fit all that criteria. Are you saying that men with those qualities are cheaters and can't be monagomous? Naah, he's just talking the competition down so that he looks good, ! There are some good men out there.
nicki Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Actually, I was thinking of one man in particular when I wrote that. He evolved into that man, but you are right, no one man can usually fit all those criteria at once. It's more like the guy has to already have the important core elements, like personality, passion, ethics of trust and honesty, kindness, their unique cuteness factor. These are traits that really can't be taught. In my opinion, they are either there, or not. And not negotiable items in my book. But, other things are skills that can be learned. Manners, confidence, etc. can be developed, if the right seeds are there. Really, then it's just a question of how much the man is motivated to learn and grow into the best person he can be for himself and for her. Women have so much power over what they create with a man. There are so many good, no make that GREAT men out there!
ReluctantRomeo Posted May 31, 2005 Posted May 31, 2005 Originally posted by nicki He evolved into that man, but you are right, no one man can usually fit all those criteria at once. I like your POV and your attitude I think a lot of people - guys and girls - underestimate the degree to which we shape each other in relationships. The core personality doesn't change easily. But skills can be learned - even confidence and manners. And compromises can be reached. I don't think you ever find the perfect partner. But maybe you find a good person who becomes over time the perfect partner for you
jaye Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 When I think about it.. in the past few years I've dated a Marine, A guy in the AF, A Stripper, A Firefighter, Was married to a Cop.. and my last BF is a Mechanic.. Hmm... What does this say about what I find appealing.. Maybe that I like the idea of a Strong Male? Too much grease
jaye Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 I like men who: Are confident in themselves Will spoil me Are financially stable Are "manly men" who can fix things and put things together Are dominant in the bedroom Make me feel special and treat me like a queen wow, you are special. huh?
jaye Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 You're just jealous. I'm in L VE! And I love his hairy toes, and his slightly bushy eyebrows which I wrestled him to the ground and trimmed. And I love the way he went on and on about AC Milan losing to Liverpool last night. So there. And I would like to see him in a kilt. Word on the street is that they don't wear knickers under there. Easy access. A Gorilla?
SmoochieFace Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 Wow, so many qualities that are considered *attractive*. Too bad I don't seem to have any of those. Oh well. *shrug* Jeez, no wonder I've always had difficulty finding relationships. Learn something new everyday.
jaye Posted October 18, 2005 Posted October 18, 2005 guys who are: bad boy-ish have nice hair-nice to put hands through intelligent sweet sensitive (the bad boy look w/sensitive personality & smart----DROOL-WINNING combo) blue eyes a plus open and honest williing to talk about feelings ROMANTIC-- especially liking the music of Chicago; lol/willing to be vulnerable and corny manly not religious or judgemental have a good future ahead of them not boring; open to new things; adventurous have similar background as me (BIG) willing to disagree w/me wants sex a lot and also uninhibited and willing to try my sexual fantasies not arrogant; I'm a sucker for the lower self esteem guys NO MAMA'S BOYS willing to stick up for me/protect me Badboy: and sensitive personality & smart & honest? wow Good luck
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