traveler_n Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I went out with a guy a couple of times last week and we had amazing chemistry. He mentioned that he wanted to take things slow because he had just gotten dumped and he did not want to get hurt again. He told me that he liked me so much and he did not plan on going anywhere (he even mentioned all of these date ideas). He called me after each date and asked when he could see me again (I told him Wednesday but we did not make official plans). He even introduced me to his friends (I went to his friends wedding party) and mentioned me meeting his parents. He tried calling me on Sunday night and I did not answer because my phone was on silent. I called him back an hour later and he did not answer. I texted him on Monday morning and he has not responded. I can't wrap my head around what happened. We fit so well together. Do you think he thought things were going too fast between us?
schiller Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 Sounds like he's a mess. He's afraid of getting hurt again, and he met this great girl (you) but he's got the whole fear thing going.. he's gotta work it through. I'm sure you'll be hearing from him soon. You didn't have sex with him yet hopefully 3
Author traveler_n Posted November 11, 2015 Author Posted November 11, 2015 I hope I hear from him soon! We did not have sex. He was such a gentleman and I really liked that. He said that he wanted to take things slow. The only thing we did was hug.
d0nnivain Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 Maybe. You did everything "right". His flakiness is on him. Try not to worry about it 3
smackie9 Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 It's not uncommon for people to ghost because the ex contacted them to reconcile.....anything is possible. If not I'm sure his friends will talk some sense into him and his doubts will settle down. I know he pulled you in emotionally BUT you should know by now that this is the workings of a rebound. He is emotionally raw from his last relationship. Many seek out someone as an escape from the pain, instead of healing properly. Note*If you want better results ALWAYS call the person DO NOT text. Texting is weak for something you consider serious. 1
angel.eyes Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 This has rebound written all over it! He told you upfront he was just out of a relationship and hurting. Your red flag detector should have gone off big time. He's not yet emotionally ready to be vulnerable again...no matter how much he drew you in with his future plans and list of date ideas. You're just setting yourself up for confusion and hurt when you fall for someone who's clearly not dealt fully with his breakup. 1
thecrucible Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 I think he was on the rebound and wasn't ready as he already distanced himself at the beginning by telling you that he wanted to take it slow.
Redhead14 Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 I went out with a guy a couple of times last week and we had amazing chemistry. He mentioned that he wanted to take things slow because he had just gotten dumped and he did not want to get hurt again. He told me that he liked me so much and he did not plan on going anywhere (he even mentioned all of these date ideas). He called me after each date and asked when he could see me again (I told him Wednesday but we did not make official plans). He even introduced me to his friends (I went to his friends wedding party) and mentioned me meeting his parents. He tried calling me on Sunday night and I did not answer because my phone was on silent. I called him back an hour later and he did not answer. I texted him on Monday morning and he has not responded. I can't wrap my head around what happened. We fit so well together. Do you think he thought things were going too fast between us? He was enjoying the distraction from his break up and just got too wrapped up in it too soon. Meeting parents,taking you to a wedding, etc. in only a couple of dates, is too much. "We fit so well together" -- ???? -- You didn't spend enough time together to really know if that's true. Sure, you had a good time, but there's so much more to "fitting together" than going to a wedding and talking about meeting parents . . .
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