loveweary11 Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 So, I'm having a double strike out... yes, everyone can laugh. :lmao: First, miss perfect personality blonde has gone missing. Kind of a relief because I don't have to work at that anymore. We had a little argument the other day and poof. Gone. But, there is this girl I met the night before I left NY that I wanted to get to know better. She's on vacation here in FL with her best friends having a "girls only" vacation. A couple of them have boyfriends and whatnot. It's a tough situation to crack. I spent the afternoon with her/them a couple days ago beach, food, drinks. They all came out to the boat yesterday, but damn if I can't get any alone time with this girl. I'm up against a Long Island clique. If anyone here is familiar with the group dynamics in long island groups, you'll understand how strong they are. Sucks because I'm trying to get her away to see me a bit, but all we can really do is stuff with the group and even that's hard for her to pull off. They all like me, luckily, but there isn't much room for her to do anything with me on a "girls only" trip. Such a bummer. Ah well... just venting. There is no question. No mystery to solve. Before people jump in and attack, her late night wasted snaps show how tight this girls night stuff is. It's her and like 7 girls at their own vip table, not a guy in sight in any of the snaps at all. You'd figure they would be out dancing with guys or w.e., but no.... just a complete, no guy experience it seems. Guess I was lucky to hang out with them at all! lol
Imajerk17 Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 (edited) I'm not having any laughs at your expense man. However, I WAS going to repeat that you spent too much time thinking about her (Perfect Personality's) "look" and not enough screening on her character. Except, I also think that on some level you ENJOY this sort of drama--both w Perfect Personality and w New Girl. So I guess this makes it a win. ETA: People are people and women are women. If New Girl wanted to see you alone, she would. That she is from Long Island has nothing to do w that. Edited November 11, 2015 by Imajerk17 7
thecrucible Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Do you have a group of guy friends you could maybe initiate a joint group outing with? The guys could keep the other ladies occupied and you can see how you get on with the one you like.
Author loveweary11 Posted November 12, 2015 Author Posted November 12, 2015 I'm not having any laughs at your expense man. However, I WAS going to repeat that you spent too much time thinking about her (Perfect Personality's) "look" and not enough screening on her character. Except, I also think that on some level you ENJOY this sort of drama--both w Perfect Personality and w New Girl. So I guess this makes it a win. ETA: People are people and women are women. If New Girl wanted to see you alone, she would. That she is from Long Island has nothing to do w that. actually, long island is a unique place in the country in terms of groups. I know of what I speak. She absolutely cannot wander off from the group of girls to hang out alone with me on her girls only vacation. They wouldn't let her, period. The fact that they included me at all was a miracle, as not a single other dude was anywhere in the snaps all the way until dawn as they were at clubs or w.e. My ex wife was from there. I've spent a lot of time there. The way long islanders get into groups and group think things is unique to that geographic area. And no... i don't enjoy any of the process of sorting through all the girls, just figure that every one I go through will get me that much closer to the right one. Working the rock pile.It's a numbers game. Also, the blonde turned back up.
Author loveweary11 Posted November 12, 2015 Author Posted November 12, 2015 Do you have a group of guy friends you could maybe initiate a joint group outing with? The guys could keep the other ladies occupied and you can see how you get on with the one you like. That's a fantastic idea, but no... unfortunately all my friends are female. Also, I arrived here only 2 weeks ago. Still putting together a social life...
clia Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Well, I'm not from Long Island, but there's no way in heck I'd ditch my girls for a guy I just met if we were all on vacation together. The whole point of a girls' vacation is to spend time with the girls. So, I don't find it surprising that she isn't giving you any alone time. If you see potential in her, maybe invite her back for a weekend by herself to spend with you. But are you even interested in long distance relationship? 8
Popsicle Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Sounds great. Wish I could go on a girls only trip, but I have trouble getting everyone to arrange it around their schedules and life events.
jen1447 Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Usually "girls only" trips do indeed involve guys, only the screening process is pretty tight. (They tend to be "BF will never know" moments and the secrecy helps the girls bond.) It sounds like you just didn't quite make the cut, but hey at least you tried. (You would have only ever been a fling or at most a second anyway.)
clia Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Usually "girls only" trips do indeed involve guys, only the screening process is pretty tight. (They tend to be "BF will never know" moments and the secrecy helps the girls bond.) It sounds like you just didn't quite make the cut, but hey at least you tried. (You would have only ever been a fling or at most a second anyway.) Speak for yourself. My friends and I don't cheat on our men when we are on girls' trips. 4
jen1447 Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 Speak for yourself. My friends and I don't cheat on our men when we are on girls' trips. Hence the "usually." Or you could even just call it "often." But yes, it does happen, and it's not uncommon.
Author loveweary11 Posted November 12, 2015 Author Posted November 12, 2015 Usually "girls only" trips do indeed involve guys, only the screening process is pretty tight. (They tend to be "BF will never know" moments and the secrecy helps the girls bond.) It sounds like you just didn't quite make the cut, but hey at least you tried. (You would have only ever been a fling or at most a second anyway.) Completely untrue in the majority of the population. These girls saw absolutely zero guys. None. There was one black guy who is a local touist scammer type that got them a table at a club. He was literally the only guy present in scores of snaps of the whole group black out drunk together. Me and that guy were the only ones that *did* make the cut. I spent the whole day at the bars/beach with them the first day and then they came out to my boat a different day. In between, they asked me to go out with them to a club at 1:00am, I declined. The next night the local tourist scammer/promoter type took my spot. Literally, I was just about the only guy at all involved. There were pedicures, spas, dinners with just the girls, etc... all easily seen by everyone's snaps.
Author loveweary11 Posted November 12, 2015 Author Posted November 12, 2015 Sounds great. Wish I could go on a girls only trip, but I have trouble getting everyone to arrange it around their schedules and life events. This. definitely!! It was utter mathem! lmao They had too many girls involved, so it was very frustrating for all of them. Answering questions... I'd only been out once with her before. A first date hookup situation. We met the day before I left NYC. She was here in FL on vacation. She's actually just a touch too ghetto for me, i think, though really nice. Like... she enjoys different music than I do. Different culture. I'm more electronic live events, Fetty Wap to listen to while kind of laughing, but still enjoying. She's live clubs where it's all ghetto inside. She's a thin asian girl with breast implants to picture the whole cultural mix. So I'm the white guy that is comfortable with my own culture, not acting ghetto. But... I'm sure I'll invite her down when it's snowing up in NY and get some alone time. Also, when I return to NY in the spring, I'll invite her out, maybe. Other than her acting a little too ghetto, she's a decent girls to date.
jen1447 Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 You speak for the majority of the population? (And no, I don't either but I am a chick and I'm privy to insider chick stuff where you're not.) Anyway I'm not really looking for 'proof' on the absence of guys lol ....fine, but you still didn't make the cut. Not really sure what other type of input you're after? Tips on what to do to get in? Etc.
Author loveweary11 Posted November 12, 2015 Author Posted November 12, 2015 You speak for the majority of the population? (And no, I don't either but I am a chick and I'm privy to insider chick stuff where you're not.) Anyway I'm not really looking for 'proof' on the absence of guys lol ....fine, but you still didn't make the cut. Not really sure what other type of input you're after? Tips on what to do to get in? Etc. Maybe, but I might have known more chicks than even you over my lifetime... I'm very, very privy to all inside chick stuff. I don't know any guys. All my friends are chicks too. I'm "one of the girls" when it comes to that stuff. I know every little detail of my friends lives. They all talk with me at length. Difference between foundation and primer? Check Symptoms and treatment for UTI vs BV? Check How/when they cheat? (they all do.. lmao) Check This is actually why I was so surprised to see absolutely no dudes with them, ever. As the first post said.... no question. Just complaining that I couldn't take her away from the herd a bit. Girls only vacation made that impossible. Venting.
TexasMan68 Posted November 12, 2015 Posted November 12, 2015 It's pretty simple their all taking a break from their boyfriends to go out and have some fun.
Author loveweary11 Posted November 12, 2015 Author Posted November 12, 2015 It's pretty simple their all taking a break from their boyfriends to go out and have some fun. Exactly. Most of them had boyfriends. Mine didn't.
Qboro90 Posted November 23, 2015 Posted November 23, 2015 actually, long island is a unique place in the country in terms of groups. I know of what I speak. She absolutely cannot wander off from the group of girls to hang out alone with me on her girls only vacation. They wouldn't let her, period. The fact that they included me at all was a miracle, as not a single other dude was anywhere in the snaps all the way until dawn as they were at clubs or w.e. My ex wife was from there. I've spent a lot of time there. The way long islanders get into groups and group think things is unique to that geographic area. And no... i don't enjoy any of the process of sorting through all the girls, just figure that every one I go through will get me that much closer to the right one. Working the rock pile.It's a numbers game. Also, the blonde turned back up. NY'er born and raised so I know what your trying to say as far as the LI clique goes. That being said.... If a girl is really into you, she'll do what she wants regardless of her co&k blocking friends. Also not sure if you mentioned how old you are and how old the girl is. Im assuming she's in her 20's. Sounds like you have a nice boat and her and her friends utilized your kindness towards hosting them during their vacation. It would seem that they wouldn't be so dead set on. Not allowing her to have any time alone with you in fear that you'd cut the day short if you weren't getting anything out of it. Unless the girl told them beforehand "yea he's got a boat we can chill on for the day, just stay close to me, I don't wanna hook up with him or anything" . That's the more skeptical cynical way to look at it, but you know them better than me and have more insight to how she was acting towards you. And just because their snaps didn't show any guys, doesn't mean there weren't any guys. If the girls she was with had boyfriends then obviously they wouldn't be taking videos with guys around in fear that someone would make their bf's aware. Chances are you weren't the only person those snap videos were going to. Girls like to show off and make their friends jealous that they're not having a great time on vaca like they are. So the vids were definitely taken with the awareness that other people would see, so guys in the background were not present for the recording. Good thing about that app, is that you can re record if you want it to come out better or try again.
Author loveweary11 Posted November 23, 2015 Author Posted November 23, 2015 Yeah, but QUEENSboro... I already hooked up with her, she was on a 3 day vacation with her clique AND she's coming to see me by herself in a couple weeks, so.... Not quite right. The girls came out to my boat, dragged there by her,trying to leave asap. She made them come out. And I was in snaps..
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