want to get over her as soon as possible!

[imtheone]

me and ex agreed to be friends, not that i wanted that but fine whatever. asked her for my money she ignored me, i made myself look pathetic by bombarding her with messages(i know, silly me)(regarding the money btw, not to get back in relationship with me) said some things like she was being disrespectful by ignoring about the money, obviously she has not replied and has ignored all my messages even though ive tried to been civil.

i just want to get over her as soon as possible, she showed me her true colours when i asked nicely for my money back, and i now realise that im better off without her, but still she is on my mind a lot, as soon as i wake up till i fall asleep, god i even keep dreaming about her, today my emotions were all over the place, depressed, sad, angry etc.

i just want these feelings to disappear, i wish i never met her.

any tips on how to move on?

i just want to switch off these feelings, im not going to do anything stupid ie kill myself but i feel so worthless at the min, and i literally do not see no light at the end of the tunnel, please help and dont just say the usual 'move on' i know i need to but i need some guidance along my journey back to recovery.

im hurting

Edited November 11, 2015 by imtheone

[louxor]

me and ex agreed to be friends, not that i wanted that but fine whatever. asked her for my money she ignored me, i made myself look pathetic by bombarding her with messages(i know, silly me)(regarding the money btw, not to get back in relationship with me) said some things like she was being disrespectful by ignoring about the money, obviously she has not replied and has ignored all my messages even though ive tried to been civil.

i just want to get over her as soon as possible, she showed me her true colours when i asked nicely for my money back, and i now realise that im better off without her, but still she is on my mind a lot, as soon as i wake up till i fall asleep, god i even keep dreaming about her, today my emotions were all over the place, depressed, sad, angry etc.

i just want these feelings to disappear, i wish i never met her.

any tips on how to move on?

i just want to switch off these feelings, im not going to do anything stupid ie kill myself but i feel so worthless at the min, and i literally do not see no light at the end of the tunnel, please help and dont just say the usual 'move on' i know i need to but i need some guidance along my journey back to recovery.

im hurting

 

Well for starters, don't be her friend. You said yourself that you didn't want that, so why would you agree to do something you don't want to do? I'll take a swing and say you agreed because there was something in you that thought that if you agreed to be friends, she might come around and decide that she misses you and wants you back? All this does is reflect a total lack of self-respect, and it will have the exact opposite impact on her that you think it will - It will just push her away more because there is absolutely no way in hell she will respect you if you don't even respect yourself. It will also slow down your recovery significantly if she is still in your life. You can't expect to get over someone if they are constantly present.

 

Also, don't expect for there to be some magic pill that allows you to "switch off" your feelings, there isn't. I'm sure you've read this all over, but the most effective paths to recovery are self-improvement and time.

 

In regards to the money, is it a big amount you are talking about?

[imtheone]

not a huge amount, she dont need it cause shes rich as hell, just seems like shes holding on to for a reason to reconnect in the future, or shes just being a bi-atch about it

[PegNosePete]

No, she's holding onto the money because she doesn't want to give it to you, and you have no legal recourse to make her repay you. Nothing you can do. Forget it.