mypah-chy Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 So I was married for 15 years, around the 13 years mark I decided I was ready to divorce my husband. For all the right reasons. I did it softy and slowly. But this just totally bewildered me. Prior to signing papers my husband was begging me not to end the marriage, telling me that we had a deep rooted connection. He professed his love for me, etc. So a few weeks of this and I thought that maybe he should go out and date. Ok so I figured he would date around a bit. He met a lady online and after two weeks he said that he was going to move in with her and marry her. They had a deep rooted conection. (Sounded familiar ) So he moved in with her and married her as soon as the divorce was final. My thing is how crazy is that? Within two weeks from devastated to in Love. Now I in no way want him back. She was a blessing to me and the kids. But I am still shocked. The divorce finalized a few months ago. Has anyone else out there experienced this or is this a rebound marriage?
schiller Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 You need to stop caring about what your exhusband does or does not do. Crazy or not. You need to get to the point where what he does interests you about as much as the life and times of some random person on the street. It takes time. 1
ShatteredLady Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 It must be a worry when you share children but some people can't stand to be alone. Have you met her yet? I'd advise he slowly introduces her to the kids. This must all be so confusing for them. I hope she's a good lady.
qubist Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I bet they knew each other way before the divorce was finalized, I can't imagine that 2 people marry each other in a matter of 2 weeks. He probably had her as plan B, he begged you to stay when you insisted on divorce he turned to her
stillafool Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I bet they were fooling around when you guys were married so I doubt if it's a rebound. Yes it is fast but some people move at that pace. Good for you and the kids that you are finally happy.
Author mypah-chy Posted November 11, 2015 Author Posted November 11, 2015 That is what I am concerned about. Yes there are children involved. No he doesnt want me to meet her. He introduced her right away. Has anyone experienced this before? He may not care about how our kids feel about it but I am the one who has to help them understand something that I don't get. Does that make more sense?
Author mypah-chy Posted November 11, 2015 Author Posted November 11, 2015 I thought about that but I got him on the dating site. He met her on the site. Yes ,I signed my husband on to a dating site. So he showed me pictures of the different women he was talking to. At any rate, has anyone seen a rebound marriage like this last?
dreamingoftigers Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I thought about that but I got him on the dating site. He met her on the site. Yes ,I signed my husband on to a dating site. So he showed me pictures of the different women he was talking to. At any rate, has anyone seen a rebound marriage like this last? Nope. they are generally unstable.
qubist Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I thought about that but I got him on the dating site. He met her on the site. Yes ,I signed my husband on to a dating site. So he showed me pictures of the different women he was talking to. At any rate, has anyone seen a rebound marriage like this last? in this case they are both weird, I still can't believe they didn't know each other before. Well, there is nothing you can about it, they are 2 adults.
loveboid Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I would just hope that it lasts and that everyone including kids turn out to have a happy ending. Relationships aren't one size fits all. Some relationships work in weird situations and some don't work in ideal situations. At the rate of divorce the way it is we get all kinds of situations that work and don't work. I agree with the previous poster. Get to the point you don't care. I would say get even further to where you wish them well. 1
oldshirt Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 Yeah it's kooky. But I don't know that it's any more kooky than you signing him up on a dating site yourself. 5
cocorico Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 I married my H within days of his divorce, but we'd been living together for months by then, and had been in a relationship for years. If he met her, fell in love quickly and married her within weeks, it could be rebound, or it could be Love At First Sight. There are some couples on LS who met and married in a very short space of time and have been together - happily - for decades. Only time will tell.
ChicagoSparty Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 Yikes. Sounds like his problem, though, and not yours. You don't have kids together, so it's best to just put the whole thing behind you and not worry about or even think about him.
stillafool Posted November 11, 2015 Posted November 11, 2015 Prior to signing papers my husband was begging me not to end the marriage, telling me that we had a deep rooted connection. He professed his love for me, etc. He was obviously lying to you. She was a blessing to me and the kids. He may not care about how our kids feel about it but I am the one who has to help them understand something that I don't get. Above you say she is a blessing to you and the kids but then you go on to say you have to make them understand this. Is she a blessing or not?
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