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Taking it slow ! Means ???


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So a ex got back in touch with me , after splitting up with her boyfriend last week

I kind of got the impression she put him on a pedestal and it didn't quite work out as she planned

We met up Sunday , went out and had a chat , went back to mine there was a bit of cuddling , but no kissing ! Baring in mind previously we had had sex and obviously kissed ! No kiss when she left just a cuddle

When she got home a got a text

 

Thanks for a lovely day , looking forward to the next , don't get upset by the no kiss , I just want to take things slow and get to know each other

 

When she sends a text there is no kiss

 

Yesterday I got a text asking if I wanted to go to a log cabin that she had booked for her and ex ( obviously not together now)that's if she didn't cancel it as she was in two minds , and awaiting bookings for some clients on the days we were supposed to go ! So nothing definitely as she said

 

Texted today and cancelled log cabin due to customers coming

 

Not sure what to make of it , I'm not texting , ringing her , but surely if she wanted to get to know me better the log cabin was a perfect place for a couple of days

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It means you're pushing too hard.

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she's on the rebound.. not a good time to be visiting things. In this particular context I think that "taking it slow" means she's not really ready for a new emotional connection/probably doesn't know where her head is at. I would give her space for a couple of months until she's had time to get over the guy so you can be sure she's not just using you to ease the pain of the breakup. How long did they date? how long did the two of you date and when?

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That's good advice

I don't text or ring her , I let her do it

It's quite hard when you fancy some one to keep it out of your mind , should I carrying on dating with others or just take it slow with her , it's at snail pace ATM

 

Can't help but think she would go back with him

Again if conditions right

 

She was with him about 4 weeks

But known him about 2 years

They Broke up twice in 4 weeks

 

I was only with her for two weeks previously

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I don't blame you for being confused. She's already had sex with you and now she's saying she wants to take it slow and not have sex on the table. It seems a bit contradictory.

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Here is a text I got today

 

Hi I've had an accident with the jacuzzi lid in the wind it blew down and landed on my arm and I'm in pain with it so can see me struggling to drive with it- I wanted to take things slow etc and not stay over and date for a while and get to know each other as friends etc - your welcome to come over earlier on for a takeaway and then drive home at a reasonable time if you like- upto u? I'm free from 6?

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So she sexed you for a few weeks, moved to some other guy.

He dropped her & now she is back to you but "taking things slow"?

 

I honestly wouldn't be giving a woman who left me for another guy the time of day.

Id just end up waiting for her to drop me again.

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