grmi66 Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Don't know if this an odd situation or not. My girlfriend and her last significant relationship broke up almost two years ago. They dated seriously for only 9 months, but in that time he really tried to weasel his way into her family. He quickly went out and became Facebook friends with her parents, siblings and all of her adult children. Tried to become a stepdad figure with the kids (my girlfriend suspects he was more excited about stepping into a pre-made family than having a girlfriend) When they broke up he continued to remain Facebook friends with all of them except for my girlfriend and only because she unfriended him. In the meantime, I arrived on the scene, started dating and recently moved in with my girlfriend. Things are great between us and I don't have any issues with her last boyfriend. I have been dating her longer than he did and our relationship is far deeper, more than likely progressing into marriage. He always struck me as kind of a weird loser and if he wants to torture himself by reading my girlfriend's family posts on Facebook, let him have it. So is this behavior normal? I know the last break up I had, I unfriended all of my ex-girlfriends family and friends that I had added to Facebook within a week or so. Certainly did not think about keeping in contact with them. My only slight concern is that this guy is still obsessed with my girlfriend and wants to hold onto any sliver of information he can garner from her family's various Facebook posts.
Gaeta Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 I don't think you should even bother your mind about this. I don't see this as a big deal and you should be too busg being happy to even notice what is going on on your mother in law FB. All my family remained friends with my ex. I am still friends with all his family. I am friends with my sibblings exs too. Let it go. It's just FB and you're a grown man
kismetkismet Posted November 10, 2015 Posted November 10, 2015 Seems pretty normal to me. My first super serious relationship was with a guy for 4 years and it ended 5 years ago - I still have a bunch of his family on facebook. I was really close with the family, and it seemed like it would be rude to just sever them suddenly after breaking up.. They still comment on my stuff sometimes and the sister sent me a christmas card a couple years ago. He now has a wife and baby and i've had a few relationships since then.. i didn't have my more recent ex's family on fb because they didn't have it. But i still have him and all of his friends. It wasn't a bitter break up at all. It would almost seem childish and petty to go through my facebook and delete all connection and evidence from past relationships... If he's trying to get her back, not moving on, or was abusive in any way though that's different. I deleted one ex from facebook because he continually harassed me and wouldn't let the relationship go. The only time i've heard of/seen people do the whole ex and ex's friends/family wipe was when they were so devastated by the breakup they couldn't stand to be updated about him and didn't have the self control not to look. 2
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